Ten mistakes you make trying to attract your man


Seth and I are not women. Not sure why I felt the need to establish that right out of the gate, but never-the-less, it is true. So because we are guys, we felt like we could give some helpful hints to the ladies about what it takes to be attractive to your man.

Full disclosure…these 10 mistakes are from an article I found at familyshare.com, but I actually thought they were pretty good. Today’s show is for the ladies, and what it doesn’t take to truly attract your man.

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An article from Mariel Reimann https://familyshare.com/27551/10-awful-mistakes-you-make-when-trying-to-attract-a-man-even-if-its-your-own-husband

Before we get into the list, just check out some of the headlines from this website:

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  • 6 ways to stop unknowingly undermining your husband (and how to encourage him to show more leadership)
  1. Making him wait

This trick might have worked in the past, but it won’t work today. Nothing discourages men more than having to wait for someone else. It’s disrespectful and selfish when you are intentionally late. Try to be punctual. Being on time is a sign of respect, and nothing is sexier than that.

  1. Showing too much skin

Contrary to what many women think, showing a lot of skin on a date (whether it’s for your boyfriend or your husband) is not attractive. If you’re married, your husband will appreciate you respecting your body. You can still wear something cute and feel beautiful while covering up.

  1. Wearing too much makeup

Most men appreciate natural beauty, so covering that all up with layers of makeup is a big turn off. Use makeup to highlight your nice cheekbones or add a pop of color to your lips, but make sure your true beauty still shines through.

  1. Eating too little

Men love it when their date enjoys a good meal. Nerves can make you feel like you don’t have much of an appetite, but try to relax and enjoy your date (and your food).

  1. Talking about your ex

Avoid talking about your past relationships. Don’t let the negativity of the past hold you back from getting to know a great guy. Focus on learning about each other’s interests, especially in the beginning of a relationship. In regards to your husband, it’s hurtful for him if you are constantly talking about the guys that could have been in his shoes.

  1. Pretending to be someone you’re not

Men notice when a woman is pretending to be someone they’re not. Be yourself; that’s what men really find attractive. If you take on a different personality to make him like you more, you’ll only create more stress for yourself and turn him away in the process.

  1. Sending mixed signals with your body language

Body language can say more than your own words. Try not to give the wrong signal about who you are or what you want out of this relationship.

  1. Being negative

Focusing on negative things will make for a long, uncomfortable date (and a very long and very uncomfortable marriage). Use your time together to talk about the highlights of your day and get to know each other more – even if he’s already your husband.

  1. Sugarcoating yourself

Dating someone who thinks they’re perfect can be intimidating. Men want to get to know the real you – flaws and all. Don’t sugarcoat who you are. Use your inner beauty to your advantage, and learn to embrace your flaws. The right man will find them irresistible.

  1. Wearing clothes that aren’t your style just to impress him

Men love women who are honest (even in the way you dress). Don’t pick out something that doesn’t fit your style just to impress him. Remember, he wants to get to know who you really are.


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