What to do when your spouse negative beliefs you to death

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Today we take on a great question from one of our live events. I just loved the wording of her question and knew our listeners could benefit from the answer. She wrote, “How do you get past a spouse who does not listen to what you say verbally but rather goes by what he thinks he thinks you mean. Like an underlying meaning behind the words.”

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“How do you get past a spouse who does not listen to what you say verbally but rather goes by what he thinks he thinks you mean. Like an underlying meaning behind the words.”

  1. What you are describing is a negative belief
    1. They are miserable and one of the 4 germs
    2. They suck the hope right out from the relationship
  2. Where do negative beliefs come from?
    1. Past experiences with you
    2. Other relationships
    3. Childhood
    4. Plain old stinky thinking
  3. To fight negative beliefs you must
    1. First start with validating your spouse (this is hard to do, but important)
      1. Your tone or words may be the trigger to the negative belief
    2. Then challenge the negative belief with the truth
    3. Get involved in a small group
    4. Go to an intensive

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