April 1, 2017

Sex and Intimacy

How to sabotage your high desire for sex

How to sabotage your high desire for sex

Are you the one in your marriage with the highest sex drive? Well...you might not be aware of some things ...
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4 things every couple needs to know about sex

4 things every couple needs to know about sex

Today we are talking about sex, possibly one of the greatest gifts outside of eternal life God ever gave humankind! ...
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Thoughtfulness leads to sexiness

Thoughtfulness leads to sexiness

A young 19 yr old in the Philippines gets what it takes to truly romanticize a woman! He bought her ...
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20 questions you have to ask each other

20 questions you have to ask each other

Recently I came across an article that initially freaked me out. But as I continued to read it, a different ...
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Building intimacy with your man

Building intimacy with your man

Hello ladies! At SMR we know what you truly want with your man...intimacy. But sometimes experiencing meaningful intimacy with your ...
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The sexy marriage progress report

The sexy marriage progress report

Most of the time I hate it when people try to compare marriage to a business or even worse...the military! ...
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Women are living in fantasy

Women are living in fantasy

Amy is fired up today and wants you to know it. Why are women stepping outside of their marriages more ...
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Increasing affection is just what the doctor ordered

Increasing affection is just what the doctor ordered

An Excerpt from Smalley Marriage Intensive Your Marriage in 2 Days Buy Smalley Marriage Intensive Your Marriage in Two Days ...
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Helping men overcome porn

Helping men overcome porn

Today we take a listener’s question on whether or not she should help her boyfriend with his pornography addiction.  Is ...
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Should he get out of the marriage?

Should he get out of the marriage?

“After 18 yrs of marriage and lots of marriage problems, I had a one time affair after a big fight ...
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Can you force reconciliation?

Can you force reconciliation?

A listener’s question after years of intimacy issues, neglect, and eventually getting kicked out of the home, asks, “Do I ...
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Adjusting your romantic expectations to reality

Adjusting your romantic expectations to reality

So often we expect our spouse to read our mind and know what we want (Valentine's Day). Reality and our ...
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How to survive an emotional affair

How to survive an emotional affair

A question from one of you, the listening audience, “How do you get past your emotions when your husband was ...
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Is sex a want or a need?

Is sex a want or a need?

Is sex a want or a need? This is one of the most popular questions we’ve asked across all our ...
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Is make-up sex a bad thing?

Is make-up sex a bad thing?

“What is a spouse to do when the other wants to be intimate directly following an argument with each other? ...
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When sex is at best dismal

When sex is at best dismal

One of our listeners submitted this question, “I have been married to my husband for almost 5 years. He is ...
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Who is the most likely to cheat?

Who is the most likely to cheat?

Ran across an interesting study recently that answered the question of who’s most likely to cheat in a committed relationship ...
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Question: Is sex a want or a need?

Question: Is sex a want or a need?

Question: I would like this question answered if possible...My wife thinks sex is a want, and I say sex is ...
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Part 4 of The 9 ways you can tell your relationship isn't working

Part 4 of The 9 ways you can tell your relationship isn’t working

Want to know what the scariest thing that can happen in a relationship is? It’s bad, and possibly a guaranteed ...
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The single most powerful way to change your relationship

The single most powerful way to change your relationship

You’re about to hear, probably, some of the most important statistics of your life. Did you know that business lose ...
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Discover how just two days can make all the difference for your marriage

Discover how just two days can make all the difference for your marriage

What could you possibly do in two days to turn your relationship around? Actually, we’ve discovered you can do quite ...
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3 things you can do if your intimacy stinks

Are you struggling in your sexual relationship with your spouse? Today we are going to give you three things you ...
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I like grey, just not fifty shades of grey

So my wife Amy came to me the other day passionate about a show idea she had. When she pitched ...
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What are you allowed to do in the bedroom and still honor each other and God

One of the top 3 articles on our website asks an important question...what is a Christian couple allowed to do ...
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When it comes to sexuality, men are like microwaves and women are like crockpots

My dad used to have the best saying when it came to the difference between men and women in physical ...
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The one thing that leads to amazing intimacy

How’s intimacy going for you in your relationship? Do you feel like it’s everything you dreamed it would be? Or ...
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The 3 hottest date night ideas ever

The 3 hottest date night ideas ever

Think it's impossible to have an amazing date night? Well...you are incredibly wrong. Sorry. But do we have a show ...
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10 incredibly hot date night conversations

10 incredibly hot date night conversations

How would you like to seriously spice things up on your next date night? We’ve got 10 things you can ...
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Keeping strong after breaking free from pornography addiction

Keeping strong after breaking free from pornography addiction

Today you get the final episode of our series on 5 steps to freedom from pornography! Discover 8 ways you ...
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7 negative effects of pornography and why you need to know

7 negative effects of pornography and why you need to know

If you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets ...
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Porn addiction is big...but God is bigger!

Porn addiction is big…but God is bigger!

SPECIAL OFFER [product id="12438" sku="REIG-NITE-COUR"] And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be ...
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Smalley Institute Online Courses

Some of our favorite date night ideas from around the web

We scoured the web for great date night ideas for Valentine's Day...which shouldn't be the only time you go out ...
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Is there anything YOU can do to help your relationship?

Is there anything YOU can do to help your relationship?

Discover what you can do to make a major, positive, impact on your relationship.  It all starts with you... And ...
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The personality series – #3 – The Golden Retriever (Episode 53)

The personality series – #3 – The Golden Retriever (Episode 53)

Learn about the most precious, kind, and best listening animal in the personality kingdom, The Golden Retriever. And by the ...
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Better sex advice with the #1 marriage blogger Dr. Corey Allan (Episode 48)

Better sex advice with the #1 marriage blogger Dr. Corey Allan (Episode 48)

Improve your sex life with advice from Dr. Corey Allan who founded simplemarriage.net, the #1 marriage blog on the web! ...
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The secret to protecting your marriage from an affair

The secret to protecting your marriage from an affair

"Why are you asking for a divorce?" the judge inquired. "Because all my husband wants is to make love," the ...
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Making touch meaningful

Making touch meaningful

Couples need to create emotional bonding times. Keeping the flames of romance alive may not always seem as important as ...
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How to get victory over lustful thoughts (Episode 43)

How to get victory over lustful thoughts (Episode 43)

We are going to help a guy overcome one of the most stressful, biologically powerful, testosterone driven, spiritual decaying, all ...
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Keep the Flame Burning

Keep the Flame Burning

Gary: In this day and age, security in the marriage relationship almost seems to have gone the way of the ...
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It doesn't begin in the bedroom

It doesn't begin in the bedroom

A marriage can’t be sustained with romance alone. But added to security, meaningful communication, and meaningful touch, it can be ...
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How to win 100% of your arguments 30% of the time! What Jesus said about compassion (Episode 40)

How to win 100% of your arguments 30% of the time! What Jesus said about compassion (Episode 40)

In today’s show you will.... Understand what Jesus taught about compassion and what that matters to your relationship. Finally understand ...
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What's on your menu?

What's on your menu?

Communication is the single most effective way to deepen intimacy in any relationship, whether it’s with your mate, family, friends, ...
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Intimacy: The Real Thing

Intimacy: The Real Thing

Gary: When we say the word intimacy, most people immediately think of sex. But the physi- cal act of coming ...
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Discovering the hope of resolution

Discovering the hope of resolution

When you boil down a lot of destructive arguments, what you often find is a simple lack of facts. The ...
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What causes conflict?

What causes conflict?

There’s no way to overcome our weaknesses without knowing our strengths. Why? Almost without exception, our weaknesses are a reflection ...
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Today's Shows

Today's Shows

Co-host with Gary Smalley: What’s the worst thing you’ve done in your 47-years of marriage? Today my father, Gary, and ...
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Book Report on Real Marriage - What forgiveness is not (Episode 23)

Book Report on Real Marriage – What forgiveness is not (Episode 23)

Learn how important forgiveness is for your relationship and the 9 things forgiveness is not! EPISODE 23 Book Report on ...
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Book report on Real Marriage - How to be a man (Episode 21)

Book report on Real Marriage – How to be a man (Episode 21)

EPISODE 21 A book report: Real Marriage: the truth about sex, friendship, and life together INTRO This is Michael Smalley, ...
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Book report: Real Marriage - Chapter 2 'Friends with Benefits' (Episode 20)

Book report: Real Marriage – Chapter 2 'Friends with Benefits' (Episode 20)

Michael discusses chapter 2 from Mark and Grace Driscoll's Real Marriage. Learn the importance of building a lasting friendship with ...
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Acceptance Turns Away Anger

Acceptance Turns Away Anger

Avoid being “hypersensitive” to every frown or smile from your husband. At all costs, put away anger if your husband ...
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Those days are gonna come

Those days are gonna come

Gary: Conflict is inevitable in any close relationship, including marriage. When you put to- gether two people, male and female, ...
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The question is: How can I honor God and my husband?

The question is: How can I honor God and my husband?

Question: I believe we should tithe, but my husband doesn’t. My husband is a Christian, but he believes tithing isn’t ...
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The fear dance - understanding why you fight

The fear dance – understanding why you fight

My husband and I have been married for almost nine months. I must admit that marriage has been much more ...
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A Surprising Way to a Stronger Marriage - Introduction

A Surprising Way to a Stronger Marriage – Introduction

Chapter 01 Introduction Their faces were filled with anguish as they approached us after one of our sessions at a ...
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A Surprising Way to a Stronger Marriage – Disclaimer

A Surprising Way to a Stronger Marriage – Disclaimer

Our newest book is "A Surprising Way to a Stronger Marriage: how the power of one changes everything!"  This book ...
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the DNA of Relationships: The joy can be yours - Part 3

the DNA of Relationships: The joy can be yours – Part 3

We all want warm, fulfilling relationships—in our marriages, in our families, in our friendships, and in the workplace. I long ...
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Why won't you trust me?

Why won't you trust me?

One of the most frequently asked questions I hear is “My spouse doesn’t trust me, how do I regain his ...
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The Heart of a Remarried Husband

The Heart of a Remarried Husband

"Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance." ...
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Remarriage: Focus on Creating a Safe Marriage Environment

Remarriage: Focus on Creating a Safe Marriage Environment

Intimacy occurs effortlessly and naturally when two hearts are open to one another. In its most basic sense, intimacy is ...
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Remarriage: Taking care of your own heart

Remarriage: Taking care of your own heart

Most marriage, remarriage, and stepfamily books go to great lengths to show you how to invest in the other people ...
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Remarriage: Loss, Pain & Change!

Remarriage: Loss, Pain & Change!

We often tell remarried couples that if we had only one hour to spend with them, we would use the ...
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The heart of remarriage

The heart of remarriage

When Matt and Mandy decided to get married, they vowed to do it right. They would love each other till ...
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Why Won’t You Trust Me?

Why Won’t You Trust Me?

One of the most frequently asked questions I hear is “My spouse doesn’t trust me, how do I regain his ...
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Will you help us with a title for a new book?

Will you help us with a title for a new book?

Help us title our book on dating ...
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About a Girl: a guide on how a man can love his wife!

About a Girl: a guide on how a man can love his wife!

I want to encourage everyone reading this that the series is not going to be a male bashing experience ...
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Choices That Impact Your Marriage

Choices That Impact Your Marriage

God has given you the ability to choose. Next to the gift of His Son Jesus, this is the most ...
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The Marriage Crisis in America

The Marriage Crisis in America

Most couples enter marriage hoping to achieve happiness. And for each of us, that vision of happiness takes a different ...
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Facebook proving to be bad for your marriage!

Facebook proving to be bad for your marriage!

In full disclosure, both my wife and I use Facebook for our personal lives and our ministry along with my ...
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On Tiger Woods: Why isn't anyone talking about this issue!

On Tiger Woods: Why isn't anyone talking about this issue!

I've been a supporter of Tiger ever since he burst on to the scene as a professional golfer ...
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Keeping secrets from your spouse: what do you have to tell

Keeping secrets from your spouse: what do you have to tell

What's acceptable to keep from your spouse? ...
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Question and Answer: Is my husband lying about an affair?

Question and Answer: Is my husband lying about an affair?

Watch and find out why Julie from Texas needs to understand how her husband is lying to her about sex ...
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The Five Levels of Intimacy

The Five Levels of Intimacy

The First Level Here, a couple simply tries to avoid each other and when they do speak, it is usually ...
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My boyfriend has had sex but I'm a virgin - now what?

My boyfriend has had sex but I'm a virgin – now what?

My boyfriend has had sex, but I am still a virgin. I'm really interested in him, but I'd like to ...
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How can I teach my daughter the power of purity and modesty when sex is treated so casually?

How can I teach my daughter the power of purity and modesty when sex is treated so casually?

How can I teach my daughter the power of purity and modesty when sex is treated so casually? ...
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12 ways to keep your love alive

12 ways to keep your love alive

Learn the 12 main things you can do to keep your love alive! ...
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Marriage Tip: Want more love'n in the bedroom from your wife?

Marriage Tip: Want more love'n in the bedroom from your wife?

Do you know how to turn your spouse on?  I mean really get your wife heated up?  Put some socks ...
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1 in 3 marriages struggle with a low sex drive!

1 in 3 marriages struggle with a low sex drive!

Researchers estimate that 1 in 3 couples struggle with a low sex drive. This can be the number one problem ...
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mark-sanford

A must read article from TIME: Is there hope for the American Marriage

My friend, Jeff Fray, over at the Marriage CoMission, shared the link to this TIME magazine article.  It is a ...
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tree-alone

How porn can cripple a marriage – a podcast with Covenant Eyes

Alright! My last post on the issue of porn and marriage has created quite the stir!  I love a healthy ...
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Marriage: The Need to Feel a Mutual Commitment and Security

Marriage: The Need to Feel a Mutual Commitment and Security

Relationship expert Dr. Scott Stanley's definition of commitment is twofold. First, he says, commitment involves constraints. Constraints are those forces ...
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The Top 10 mistakes couples make during conflict

The Top 10 mistakes couples make during conflict

What causes divorce? Seems like a complicated question, but in reality, it is quite simple.  Researchers like Drs. Scott Stanley, ...
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infidelity

7 reasons why your spouse would cheat on you

There are a lot of extra marital affairs each year in the United States. I must admit that I was ...
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Conflict Resolution Part #3: 5 ways to becoming a great listener

Conflict Resolution Part #3: 5 ways to becoming a great listener

You've learned in parts 1 and 2 of my conflict resolution series why it is important to have a structure ...
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I've slept with a prostitute - should I tell my wife?

I've slept with a prostitute – should I tell my wife?

THE QUESTION Recently, while away on business, I was in the wrong place - wrong time - had sex with ...
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Ask Michael and Amy: What if I don't meet up to my future husband's sexual expectations?

Ask Michael and Amy: What if I don't meet up to my future husband's sexual expectations?

This is a followup question from a previously answered issue from a young lady who is a sophomore in college ...
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Danger lurks behind the new iPhone 3.0 software update for marriages

Danger lurks behind the new iPhone 3.0 software update for marriages

I am not a paranoid person, but let me be perfectly clear, I'm a little paranoid about the implications surrounding ...
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Kids Can Make a Beautiful Marriage Ugly

Kids Can Make a Beautiful Marriage Ugly

The birth of children has an immediate negative impact on even blissfully happy couples, raising stress and reducing satisfaction levels ...
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Miss California gets standing ovation at show

Miss California gets standing ovation at show

If only we could all make such a strong stand for what we believe in.  I always find it fascinating ...
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Six-year old charged with sexual touching

Six-year old charged with sexual touching

A little 6-year old boy from Woodbridge, VA was slapped with the crime of 'sexual touching' at school for literally ...
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What the Masters Golf tournament can teach you about marriage

What can the Masters golf tournament teach you about your marriage? Just check out Steve Wilson's story.  This week, at ...
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Marriage 'can harm women's health'

Marriage 'can harm women's health'

How crazy is this article! I have provided the full article in this post because I wanted to make sure ...
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The Secret to Sexual Intimacy

Why is oral sex such a problem for Christians?

One of my most popular posts is titled "Is oral sex okay in a Christian marriage?". I find it truly ...
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Another Facebook Divorce - Football Fans Fake A Fling

Another Facebook Divorce – Football Fans Fake A Fling

Another Facebook Divorce - Football Fans Fake A FlingFacebook helps hasten the end of another relationship. Okay, it’s not Facebook’s ...
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Seven Reasons Why Living Together Before Marriage is not a Good Idea

Seven Reasons Why Living Together Before Marriage is not a Good Idea

Seven Reasons Why Living Together Before Marriage is not a Good Idea « My Lord and My BlogI’m preparing a ...
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tormei

"Stripping your way to success" – Is this what Hollywood really wants to portray?

I came across this article in the Wall Street Journal and it truly upset me: On Sunday night, actress Marisa ...
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The top 10 passion killers

The top 10 passion killers

Dr. John Gottman's material is trustworthy and very well founded. So pay attention to these top 10 passion killers.Christina Aguilera ...
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Sex and the Seminary?

Sex and the Seminary?

The release of a report entitled "Sex and the Seminary" is certain to attract attention -- which is no doubt ...
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Intimacy: A Deeper Discussion

Intimacy: A Deeper Discussion

Lately we've been on a journey exploring the topic of intimacy. Starting with a discussion of intimacy vs. sex, which ...
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A marriage and family guy goes to Zimbabwe

A marriage and family guy goes to Zimbabwe

For those of you who want to pray for me and my friend Casey as we travel to Zimbabwe, I ...
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Personal Psalm

Personal Psalm

My time at the AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors) conference in Dallas was rich.  I heard many fine talks, ...
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Why do good men fall into pornography

Why do good men fall into pornography

eCounseling.com has a great article here by Dwight Bain, Nationally Certified Counselor & Certified Life Coach, on the precursors to good men falling ...
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Sexual predators stalking interactive video games

Sexual predators stalking interactive video games

USA Today reports that sexual predators are using gaming consoles like Xbox, PlayStation, and the WII to meet kids online ...
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My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 1)

My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 1)

Q: My wife and I need help getting on the same page. With each step in this marriage it feels ...
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How can I teach my daughter the power of purity and modesty when sex is treated so casually?

How can I teach my daughter the power of purity and modesty when sex is treated so casually?

Q: How can I teach my daughter the power of purity and modesty when sex is treated so casually?Watch Michael ...
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My boyfriend has had sex, but I am still a virgin - what should I do?

My boyfriend has had sex, but I am still a virgin – what should I do?

Q: My boyfriend has had sex, but I am still a virgin. I'm really interested in him, but I'd like ...
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How can I stop myself from having random sex with men?

How can I stop myself from having random sex with men?

Q: I have a habit of going out and drinking too much. When I do this, I take random guys ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

I have sex, but I still feel really empty inside when it's over. Is this normal?

Q: I have sex, but I still feel really empty inside when it's over. Is this normal?Watch Michael and Amy Smalley's ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

Is oral sex really sex?

Q: Some people claim that oral sex isn't really sex. What do you think?Watch Michael and Amy Smalley's Answer. More from Michael ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

How can I achieve intimacy with someone I'm dating without having sex?

Q: How can I achieve intimacy with someone I'm dating without having sex? Watch Michael and Amy Smalley's Answer More from Michael and ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

Our sex life has gone down hill – what can we do?

Q: Our sex life has gone down hill - what can we do?Watch Michael and Amy Smalley's Answer More from Michael ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

What can we do to prepare for a good sex life?

Q: My fiance has had sex and I haven't. I'm nervous about having sex. I'm afraid it might hurt and that ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

How can I teach my daughter that it's okay to remain abstinent?

Q: In a world that treats sex so casually, how can I teach my daughter that it's okay to remain abstinent?Watch ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

How can we keep from having sex in a dating relationship?

Q: We just started dating. We don't want to have sex, but I'm concerned that it might just happen. Do you ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

If I'm a virgin, should I only marriage a virgin?

Q: My boyfriend has had sex, but I am still a virgin. I'm really interested in him, but I'd like to ...
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Why is oral sex such a problem for Christian couples?

Why is oral sex such a problem for Christian couples?

Here is a comment we received lately from our most popular post on the site: Do what I suggest. Read ...
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A positive conversation about sex - from a Christian point of view

A positive conversation about sex – from a Christian point of view

Listen here to last week's radio podcast. You might learn something about sex and the code name "Cloverfield" ...
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RetroFamily: The love boat and the joy of sex

RetroFamily: The love boat and the joy of sex

Check out week three of my RetroFamily series and learn all the positive benefits and sacredness of sex ...
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Engaged Couples Rarely Discuss Sex, Finances Or Other Issues Before Wedding

Engaged Couples Rarely Discuss Sex, Finances Or Other Issues Before Wedding

Check out the full article here: In the euphoria of engagement and hubbub of wedding planning, brides and grooms avoid ...
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Huckabee and covenant marriages

Huckabee and covenant marriages

Way to go Huckabee! Huckabee even used his home and his marriage to gain publicity. In 2001, Huckabee signed into ...
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A marriage revelation

A marriage revelation

I recently spoke to a woman whose marriage is going through some difficulties. She told me of some of their ...
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Overcoming pornography addiction

Overcoming pornography addiction

If you are struggling with an online (or offline) pornography addiction, then take a look at what I found at ...
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When Touch is Withheld

When Touch is Withheld

The young woman's story seemed all too familiar. She had to do some fast growing up when three major events ...
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The strongest case against cohabitation I've ever read!

The strongest case against cohabitation I've ever read!

Duane Sheppard has written one of the best articles I've ever read on the case against cohabitation.  Here is the ...
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More than a Match

More than a Match: how to turn the dating game into lasting love

purchase today Cheaper than Amazon.com! (34% off the retail price) $12.00 How to Find - and Keep - the Love ...
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Should we lie to our children?

Should we lie to our children?

I found this question at FunAdvice and it made me want to respond: 'Do as I say, not as I ...
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Preventing divorce through public policy

Preventing divorce through public policy

A new group in the state of Virginia is wanting to develop and implement public policy to help curb the ...
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Being in the world and not of the world: the issues of peer pressure

Being in the world and not of the world: the issues of peer pressure

Being a healthy family is difficult - especially when you add peer pressure for both the parents and the children ...
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This is exactly why you shouldn't tape yourselves having sex!

This is exactly why you shouldn't tape yourselves having sex!

I recently answered a question from a couple who wanted to know if it was OK to tape themselves having ...
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Is it OK to video tape yourself while having sex with your mate?

Is it OK to video tape yourself while having sex with your mate?

The question: My wife and I have wondered for quite some time if it would be okay to film ourselves ...
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Is it OK to pray with my boyfriend?

Is it OK to pray with my boyfriend?

The question: Is it okay to pray together with your boyfriend? I have heard some say that praying together needs ...
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How do my boyfriend and I keep from having sex?

How do my boyfriend and I keep from having sex?

The question: I have been dating a great man for just over 6 mos. On our first date he told ...
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How can I fix my hurting marriage?

How can I fix my hurting marriage?

The question: It appears that my spouse and me have been at each other for the last four and half ...
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R.I.P. Morality?

R.I.P. Morality?

What example are you setting? Rom 12:2 “Do not be conformed to this world…” We cringe when we hear the ...
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Finally a Christian who is relaxed about sex

Finally a Christian who is relaxed about sex

OK, this title might get me in trouble, but I had to say it. One of the more frustrating experiences ...
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The Smalley Marriage Constitution

The Smalley Marriage Constitution

Both Norma and I, wishing to form a more loving union, hereby document our best attempt at forming the most ...
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A question about intimacy: How far is too far?

A question about intimacy: How far is too far?

A few months ago, I wrote an entry titled “What is intimacy?” A reader commented and asked me the following ...
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Clearance special on the Embrace marriage seminar (audio series)

Clearance special on the Embrace marriage seminar (audio series)

Do not miss this opportunity to revitalize your marriage or the marriages in your church! The Embrace Seminar audio series ...
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Family Devotional: Listening to God's voice: the gift of the Holy Spirit

Family Devotional: Listening to God's voice: the gift of the Holy Spirit

What happens when we listen to God's voice? More importantly, how do we listen to God's voice and who is ...
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What is hedonism

What is hedonism

The question: Please explain to me in writing , what is a hedonist and what does he really do? It ...
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Resources to get if your husband isn't interested in sex

Resources to get if your husband isn't interested in sex

The question: Finally, I am starting to hear I am not alone. I am not the only woman with strong ...
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A testimony for Don't Date Naked

A testimony for Don't Date Naked

I always love receiving feedback from people who read our books, take a look at what this young lady wrote ...
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How you define an affair

How you define an affair

The question: I have listened to this and I especially appreciate you defining emotional abuse. Now I ask that you ...
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What is intimacy?

What is intimacy?

I’ve been contemplating for some time how to tackle this very delicate subject. It seems to be a topic most ...
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20 percent of couples suffer in a sexless marriage

20 percent of couples suffer in a sexless marriage

I came across this statistic at the Dr. Keith Ablow blog and have not been able to verify it yet, ...
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Creative date ideas for Valentine's Day

Creative date ideas for Valentine's Day

Here are some creative date ideas for Valentine's Day. I've scoured the Internet in search for the best ideas and ...
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Is your spouse your best friend?

Is your spouse your best friend?

My husband and I consider ourselves to be best friends. That friendship was built over time. It wasn’t instant. We ...
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The perfect date for Valentine's Day

The perfect date for Valentine's Day

Do you want the perfect date for Valentine's Day? I can promise you that it has nothing to do with ...
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Is oral sex Ok in a Christian marriage?

Is oral sex Ok in a Christian marriage?

I just received this question and it jumped right off the page at me! We have just ordered over $400 ...
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My first podcast: Don't be so resistent to help

My first podcast: Don't be so resistent to help

This is in response to all the heat about a woman's need for sex! You won't want to miss this ...
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Am I the only wife who has a need for sex?

Am I the only wife who has a need for sex?

The issue: I also am in the category of women who feel they NEED sex and I have a husband ...
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When a husband abuses intimacy

When a husband abuses intimacy

One of my most popular posts has been whether sex is a want or a need, but I recently got ...
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Praying together as a couple

Praying together as a couple

Psalms 69:13  "But I pray to you, O LORD, in the time of your favor; in your great love, O ...
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How to get your wife to respond sexually: The Mark Driscoll scandal

How to get your wife to respond sexually: The Mark Driscoll scandal

I was reading a post by Rebecca on the recent Mark Discoll fiasco post where he basically told pastors wives ...
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Stopping the AIDS epidemic: why the critics of Bush and others don't understand

Stopping the AIDS epidemic: why the critics of Bush and others don't understand

I've been to Nigeria and South Africa over the past few years and have personally held the hands and hugged ...
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Will premarital sex destroy my future marriage?

Will premarital sex destroy my future marriage?

The question: My small group youth leader past "don't date naked" to me and I have enjoyed it thus far ...
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Why do men lie to women?

Why do men lie to women?

I was recently reading an interesting post by Gayla McCord on the 10 Lies Men Tell, and it got me ...
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Do video games cause your child to be more violent?

Do video games cause your child to be more violent?

A recent study by the Indiana University School of Medicine suggests that violent video games increases a child's negative behavior, ...
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Overeaters just can't catch a break

Overeaters just can't catch a break

So you eat yourself into a weight problem and 300 pounds later you're under the knife undergoing gastric bypass surgery ...
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Warning signs that your child might be addicted to porn

Warning signs that your child might be addicted to porn

You know online pornography is devastating to your child, but how can you know if your child is watching it? ...
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What can you do when you're no longer attracted to your spouse?

What can you do when you're no longer attracted to your spouse?

It's a common problem with couples I see in my office: "I'm not attracted to him any more." "I don't ...
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The danger of online pornography and why your home isn't immune

The danger of online pornography and why your home isn't immune

As a marriage and family author and speaker I’ve seen too many couples and too many families disintegrate because of ...
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Why marriages end in divorce - and what this means to the children

Why marriages end in divorce – and what this means to the children

Why do couples divorce? The typical statement I hear from couples who come to my office is, "I know there's ...
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The Domino effect:  Your actions effect others

The Domino effect: Your actions effect others

The Christian world has been recently rocked with news of the Rev. Haggard’s admitted sexual immorality and other indiscretions. There ...
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What every parent must know about teen pregnancy

What every parent must know about teen pregnancy

I got the call in the late afternoon and it was a family from my church. The father sounded extremely ...
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Married people have more sex than singles

Married people have more sex than singles

If you turn on the television or simply go to a movie, you'd think unmarried people are having the most ...
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Does having kids mean you're truly married?

Does having kids mean you're truly married?

What does it mean to truly be married? Does it mean that you're living together? Does it mean that you're ...
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Why marriages are the minority in the U.S. - an intersting take on this enormous issue

Why marriages are the minority in the U.S. – an intersting take on this enormous issue

I wrote a previous post highlighting a recent American Community Survey that revealed, for the first time in history, that ...
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Study proves sex is good for your health

Study proves sex is good for your health

Guys...have you ever felt like you were running out of reasons to motivate your wife sexually? Alan Farnham, of Forbes, ...
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Do you find yourself with unreliable, emotionally unavailable, or needy people?

Do you find yourself with unreliable, emotionally unavailable, or needy people?

Codependency. Perhaps you've heard of this term, perhaps this term has been used to describe you. But what is codependency? ...
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14 ways to open the door to intimacy with your spouse

14 ways to open the door to intimacy with your spouse

If you’re wondering what it takes to gain intimacy in your marriage, take a look at the list below. It ...
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Becoming One:  A Foundational Principle for a Passionate Marriage

Becoming One: A Foundational Principle for a Passionate Marriage

Amy and I (Michael) were locked in what felt like mortal combat.  Neither was willing to give in to the ...
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4 ways to protect your marriage from infidelity (powerful affair proofing)

4 ways to protect your marriage from infidelity (powerful affair proofing)

"Why are you asking for a divorce?" the judge inquired. "Because all my husband wants is to make love," the ...
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5 steps to creating desirable sex

5 steps to creating desirable sex

Have you ever desired truly passionate and desirable sex with your mate? Sex that doesn’t simply bring you closer together ...
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Are you auditioning for the role of the spouse? Why cohabitation doesn't work.

Are you auditioning for the role of the spouse? Why cohabitation doesn't work.

During our dating and early married phase of our relationship my husband and I made many poor choices. Christ was ...
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The death of traditional family

The death of traditional family

I'm dissappointed to share with you the news from the 2005 American Community Survey by the Census Bureau that found ...
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The retaliation affair: why 'getting even' after an affair only makes things worse

The retaliation affair: why 'getting even' after an affair only makes things worse

Your spouse has had an affair and now you want to get even. You feel hurt, betrayed, dishonored, and you ...
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Discovering the main cause of unhappiness

Discovering the main cause of unhappiness

“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified; that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should ...
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Why Do Good Marriages Go Bad?

Why Do Good Marriages Go Bad?

There once was a man who ate lunch at a restaurant on the Florida Coast. The man had heard of ...
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Great ideas for engaged couples to be productively busy

Great ideas for engaged couples to be productively busy

When it seems as though you've run out of things to do together, make sure you spend time together on ...
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Regaining your virginity

Regaining your virginity

Over eighty percent of Christian singles have reported having sex before marriage.  Yet, 99.9% of all churches teach their singles ...
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Are you expecting? A danger for engaged couples.

Are you expecting? A danger for engaged couples.

Don't let the title of this article mislead you. We are not talking about pregnancy! This isn’t an article on ...
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Keeping secrets - do couples have to share everything?

Keeping secrets – do couples have to share everything?

You're married, which means you have to tell each other everything, right? ...
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Holding hands means a better love life

Holding hands means a better love life

A friend (and editor) of mine, Mick Silva (Waterbrook Press) passed on a link to a NY Times article about ...
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Scene from recent Amish school shooting

The cause and prevention of school violence

It is now confirmed that at least 6 people have died from a recent shooting at an Amish schoolhouse Monday ...
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Praying together -- even in an interfaith marriage?

Praying together — even in an interfaith marriage?

I was checking my Google Reader this morning and found the following feed from About.com the marriage section headed up ...
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2 things men hate the most

2 things men hate the most

If you're interested in men, dating a man, or married to a man then you'd better know the two things ...
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Increasing the mystery and joy of sex in marriage

Increasing the mystery and joy of sex in marriage

I just read this post from salon.com and thought my own readers might enjoy it...and I mean ENJOY it 🙂 ...
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An interesting look at the cost of divorce

An interesting look at the cost of divorce

It is widely assumed that divorce costs a lot of money. Some reports say that legal fees alone can average ...
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So you're saying I'm fat?

So you're saying I'm fat?

I had the best wake-up experience this morning. I'm the kind of guy who, if I open my eyes at ...
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Wow!  Men and women are different.

Wow! Men and women are different.

A new book as emerged titled "The Female Brain" by Louann Brizendine. In case you are wondering about the obvious ...
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Struggles With Intimacy

Struggles With Intimacy

Article by Gary Smalley A man who can cry is a man who has learned some secrets about intimacy. But ...
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The art of love for women

The art of love for women

Loving your wife is like owning a Ferrari F430 Spyder. This car is one of the most spectacular sports cars ...
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How to have an affair

How to have an affair

An affair is a fantasy to dissconnect from the realities, painful realities, of life. We want to ease the stress ...
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Sexual fantasies revealed in 3 steps!

Sexual fantasies revealed in 3 steps!

By Michael Smalley Now that I have your attention let us get down to business. Too many couples suffer from ...
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Is the Grass Greener

Is the Grass Greener

"It is God's will that you should be sanctified; that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should ...
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Preventing Future Problems

Preventing Future Problems

When families manage their conflicts poorly, more trouble follows. Maybe your teen loses respect for your advice and becomes constantly ...
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Set yourself up to succeed!

Set yourself up to succeed!

I can't be passionate enough about the topic of purity. It's not about saying "no" to sex, but rather it's ...
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Discovering Your Mates Built-in Marriage Manual

Discovering Your Mates Built-in Marriage Manual

by Dr. Greg Smalley Do you ever do something you feel is loving for your mate, but he or she ...
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Top Ten Conflicts With Teenagers

Top Ten Conflicts With Teenagers

Conflict is not a surprising topic when we mention the words parents and teenagers in the same sentence ...
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The Gift of the Blessing: In Search of the Blessing

The Gift of the Blessing: In Search of the Blessing

All of us long to be accepted by others. While we may say out loud, "I don't care what people ...
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Strategic Romance

Strategic Romance

When Sheri and I speak publicly, we almost always make the point that our romantic relationship has never been better ...
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12 Ways to Keep Your Love Alive

12 Ways to Keep Your Love Alive

1. Praise is such a great gift, and it's so easy to give. So look at the things that make ...
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Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent

Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent

Gary: When we say the word intimacy, most people immediately think of sex. But the physical act of coming together ...
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The Two Sides of Love

The Two Sides of Love

Do you and your loved ones sometimes seem miles apart? Do you long for greater affection in your most important ...
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Incredible Intimacy

Incredible Intimacy

by Jim Mueller 01/01/02 When you think of intimacy, what comes to mind? A romantic date? Warm conversation? Candlelight dinner? ...
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The Five Levels of Intimacy

The Five Levels of Intimacy

The First Level Here, a couple simply tries to avoid each other and when they do speak, it is usually ...
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