The rising risk of being ghosted


There’s a rising risk to dating in this day and age…and it’s name is Ghosted. Never heard of someone being ghosted before? Don’t feel too bad, because neither had I! But ghosting is a real thing, and worse, it is a dishonorable thing to do to someone. Today we are going to explain what it is, why it happens, and what you can do about it if you’ve ever been ghosted.

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“The opposite of love isn’t hate; it is indifference. Ghosting, for those of you who haven’t yet experienced it, is having someone that you believe cares about you, whether it be a friend or someone you are dating, disappear from contact without any explanation at all. No phone call or email, not even a text.” Jennice Vilhauer, PhD (

  • 50% of men and women experience being Ghosted
  • An equal amount have also done it

Ghosting isn’t anything new

  • But it is seriously increasing because of apps like Tinder
  • As a parent, you need to know about the good and bad of online dating

Why would someone ever Ghost another person?

  • They still haven’t figured out what life is all about…and it isn’t about them
  • Someone who is a major avoider
  • Desensitized about the whole thing
    • “I, for one, consider myself to be an honest and straightforward person. And yet I’ve ghosted…And I’ve told myself, time and time again, that it’s all the fault of the toxic dating culture we’ve created. And at the end of the day, I think that’s what we’re all telling ourselves.”
  • Lack of personal responsibility
  • Lack of a culture of honor

If you are a ghoster

  1. Stop the apathy and excuses
  2. Take responsibility
  3. Build a culture of honoring others in your life
  4. Choose the right action because of the other person’s innate value

If you’ve been the victim of ghosting

  1. Make sure you’re setting yourself up to succeed
    1. What dating sites are you using
      1. You can’t be on Tinder and then be shocked when you’re ghosted
    2. What are your values of who you want to date
  2. Ghosting says everything about the person who ghosted and nothing about you (sort of)
  3. Assess your choices then get back in the game
    1. If it keeps happening
      1. What past wounds are still festering
      2. Unforgiveness
      3. Lack of self-worth

Nothing is ever going to be perfect, so don’t allow being ghosted to prevent you from experiencing the kind of relationship that can honor God and yourself.

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