April 1, 2017

Forgiveness

Healing in the midst of being wounded daily

One of you submitted a question we couldn’t ignore because there was a lot of misunderstanding about forgiveness, repentance, Christians, ...
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Redemption isn’t a myth part three

Here we go with part three of Peter and Holly's story of redemption!  Redemption isn't a myth is the title of ...
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Can abusive relationships be reconciled

Today we are addressing a serious issue for some relationships, abuse. Emotional and physical abuse is an issue that must ...
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Forgiveness restores fortune

Imagine that you are successful, wealthy beyond measure, amazing family life, well known for integrity, character….and then suddenly all of ...
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Is marriage worth fighting for?

Today we are taking a question from one of you, the listener. “How do I know if my marriage is ...
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Is your relationship doomed to fail?

Today’s show is for all those listeners who’ve ever felt their marriage can’t possibly survive something horrible. The truth is, ...
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How to survive an emotional affair

A question from one of you, the listening audience, “How do you get past your emotions when your husband was ...
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The Prodigal Spouse

Ever feel like you’re spouse just won’t change? Maybe your spouse has gone off the deep end, ditched the faith, ...
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How to repair hurt

“If your spouse wants to separate, & moves out, and then after a week says they want to work on ...
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Who is the most likely to cheat?

Ran across an interesting study recently that answered the question of who’s most likely to cheat in a committed relationship ...
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4 things you can do to help your kids succeed in school

Did you know that the biggest reason your kid is going to succeed in school has everything to do with ...
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How would you like to ensure the success of your relationship?

Would you be interested in virtually insuring the success and passion for your relationship? You’d better learn then what commitment ...
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Sowing the seeds of love – earning back trust

In the previous show, we were discussing Trust, as a major foundation to any healthy relationship. So what happens when ...
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Earn the right to be trustworthy once again

Have you heard recently from anyone close to you something like, “I can’t believe…” Then you’ve broken someone’s trust. Today ...
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Part 3 of The 9 ways you know your relationship just isn’t working

Are you on Facebook? Are you in a committed relationship or marriage? Then you might want to rethink being on ...
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Part 2 of the 9 ways you know your relationship just isn’t working

Remember the song, you’ve lost that loving feeling….whoa that loving feeling...on today’s show you’re going to hear #’s 3 and ...
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Three simple things you can do to seek forgiveness part three

Part three of our seeking forgiveness shows! Stop losing energy from your past mistakes. Become a member at SmalleyInstitute.com (We've ...
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Three simple things you can do to seek forgiveness part two

Part two of what you can do to seek forgiveness because everyone makes mistakes sometimes. Become a member at SmalleyInstitute.com ...
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Three simple things you can do to seek forgiveness

What a great song! Never heard any band say quite so well. Thank you to the Black Lillies and their ...
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Two words that can improve your marriage part two

I recently came across an article titled, “The Two Simple Words That Are Greatly Improving My Marriage (And, No, They're ...
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Two words that will greatly improve your marriage

I recently came across an article titled, “The Two Simple Words That Are Greatly Improving My Marriage (And, No, They're ...
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Loren Kerns

My spouse is violent, what can I do? Part 2

Yesterday we started an important conversation on domestic violence. Today’s show is important, it’s a topic many people try to ...
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What can I do if my spouse refuses to change?

Question from a listener, “I know that whenever there are relationship problems, there are problems on both sides. We both ...
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The cost of divorce part 2

Ok, we’ve got to be completely honest with you today...yesterday we did a show on the Church and Christian community ...
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The true cost of divorce

Ok, we’ve got to be completely honest with you today...yesterday we did a show on the Church and Christian community ...
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The single most powerful way to change your relationship

You’re about to hear, probably, some of the most important statistics of your life. Did you know that business lose ...
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Discover how just two days can make all the difference for your marriage

What could you possibly do in two days to turn your relationship around? Actually, we’ve discovered you can do quite ...
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It only takes 30 seconds to turn your relationship around

So this guy came up to me at break at a seminar once, practically dragging his sweet wife to the ...
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Possibly the one thing everybody has to do

That was the classic song from Brenda Lee titled, I’m Sorry. What are you sorry about? What are you hurting ...
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The super simple way you can pull yourself out of that pit of despair

How much money have you spent in your life trying to make yourself feel better? How’d that work for you? ...
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The secret to happiness…treasure hunting trials

I want you to think about one of your worst memories as a child or adult. That one thing you ...
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When bitterness creeps in you’ve got a faith crisis

The most popular article on our website was written by my amazing wife, it’s title is “A sharp word of ...
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The infection of anger

The worst infection of all a person can get is unresolved anger! It destroys your life and negatively impacts everything ...
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4 things you can do to survive a difficult person

Adolf Hitler, Judas Iscariot, Vlad the Impaler, Jeffrey Dahmer, Muammar Gaddafi, so what do all these people have in common? ...
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On Donald Sterling...you haven't heard this perspective yet!

On Donald Sterling…you haven't heard this perspective yet!

Everybody’s talking about the racist remarks of the Los Angeles Clippers owner Donald Sterling to his girlfriend about African Americans…but ...
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7 ways to love so powerfully even the 4th generation of your family will feel it

7 ways to love so powerfully even the 4th generation of your family will feel it

In today’s show…7 ways to love that will impact even the 4th generation of your family! SPECIAL OFFER [product id="12438" ...
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Can Nelson Mandela help your relationship?

Can Nelson Mandela help your relationship?

What has your spouse done lately that really hurt you? Were you ignored? Rejected? Feeling controlled? Maybe disconnected? My encouragement ...
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Forgiveness - Intensive Advice for Couples (Episode 1)

Forgiveness – Intensive Advice for Couples (Episode 1)

Powerful, no-nonsense advice on how to get the process of forgiveness going in your relationship. (transcript of audio) Announcer: Get ...
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Love is the key to weight loss – Food and Love Part 1 (Episode 46)

If your relationships are noting going well, you will turn to something, and sadly, many of us turn to food ...
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The secret to protecting your marriage from an affair

The secret to protecting your marriage from an affair

"Why are you asking for a divorce?" the judge inquired. "Because all my husband wants is to make love," the ...
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How to open a closed heart

How to open a closed heart

There are five keys or attitudes that open a closed heart: Become gentle; demonstrate tenderheartedness. Understand what the other person ...
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What can you do if someone refuses to change? (Episode 37)

What can you do if someone refuses to change? (Episode 37)

We give you 4 things you can do to handle a spouse, child, or other important person who simply doesn't ...
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Discovering the hope of resolution

Discovering the hope of resolution

When you boil down a lot of destructive arguments, what you often find is a simple lack of facts. The ...
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What did Jesus say about forgiveness? A Smalley Short

What did Jesus say about forgiveness? A Smalley Short

Exactly how important does Jesus feel forgiveness is for your relationship? Find out with this Smalley Short! ...
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Co-hosted with Gary Smalley – The best thing he ever did in over 47-years of marriage for my mother (Episode 26)

Last show we highlighted my dad's worst, but this show we highlight his best! Learn what he says is the ...
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Today's Shows

Today's Shows

Co-host with Gary Smalley: What’s the worst thing you’ve done in your 47-years of marriage? Today my father, Gary, and ...
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A Smalley Short: Parenting 101 on bitterness

A Smalley Short: Parenting 101 on bitterness

Hi, I’m Michael Smalley, and this is 60 seconds of inspiration for your relationship. Have you asked your kids how ...
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Book Report on Real Marriage - What forgiveness is not (Episode 23)

Book Report on Real Marriage – What forgiveness is not (Episode 23)

Learn how important forgiveness is for your relationship and the 9 things forgiveness is not! EPISODE 23 Book Report on ...
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Book report on Real Marriage - How to be a man (Episode 21)

Book report on Real Marriage – How to be a man (Episode 21)

EPISODE 21 A book report: Real Marriage: the truth about sex, friendship, and life together INTRO This is Michael Smalley, ...
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Those days are gonna come

Those days are gonna come

Gary: Conflict is inevitable in any close relationship, including marriage. When you put to- gether two people, male and female, ...
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A surprising way to a stronger marriage - It's not my fault

A surprising way to a stronger marriage – It's not my fault

Don't you think that marrying the son of a famous Christian marriage expert would be a good thing? I (Amy) ...
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A surprising way to a stronger marriage - the truth can be difficult

A surprising way to a stronger marriage – the truth can be difficult

You do not want to hear what we are about to say. Before we say it, please understand our pleasure ...
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Remarriage: Focus on Creating a Safe Marriage Environment

Remarriage: Focus on Creating a Safe Marriage Environment

Intimacy occurs effortlessly and naturally when two hearts are open to one another. In its most basic sense, intimacy is ...
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Five Keys Steps to Forgiveness

Gary gives you five keys to moving toward forgiveness! ...
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If you could change one thing about your spouse, what would it be?

This post is about helping you let go of complaints about your spouse ...
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The greatest advice no one wants to hear

You feel stuck. Your marriage is no where near what you dreamed it would be. Your satisfaction has dropped to ...
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Tiger can thank his sister-in-law for his marriage and so can you!

Tiger can thank his sister-in-law for his marriage and so can you!

I was browsing my marriage articles I read each week and found this post by Perez Hilton (who I certainly ...
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How can you handle difficult people?

How can you handle difficult people?

There are times in every person's life when people feel difficult. They hurt your feelings, let you down, frustrate you, ...
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Does Tiger Woods deserve another chance?

Does Tiger Woods deserve another chance?

Does Tiger deserve another chance? What say you ...
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Common Myths About Love

Common Myths About Love

Most of us come into adulthood with a distorted vision of a healthy love relationship ...
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The Secrets to a Secure Marriage

The Secrets to a Secure Marriage

Studies have shown various stages of love such as—the delight of infatuation, the challenge of post-rapture, the excitement of discovery, ...
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A Gentle Answer Turns Away Wrath… Really?

I reconnected with an old friend today. This verse in Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh ...
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Hope for women suffering in a hurtful marriage

Hope for women suffering in a hurtful marriage

If you feel stuck and in a miserable marriage because some sort of tragedy has happened ...
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Who would have ever thought...not Tiger...not him...

Who would have ever thought…not Tiger…not him…

My heart aches as I begin to write. I'm so weary of hearing about all the women and the deception ...
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Q&A: My wife has fallen out of love with me - now what?

Q&A: My wife has fallen out of love with me – now what?

You will not want to miss this video podcast! The question I received is one that hits to the core ...
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The Command to Forgive

The Command to Forgive

I admit the Bible can sometimes be difficult to interpret and understand. However, when it comes to the command to ...
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"It's not my fault" and other lies we convince ourselves of.

"It's not my fault" and other lies we convince ourselves of.

Don't you think that marrying the son of a world famous Christian marriage expert would be a good thing? ...
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The command to forgive

The command to forgive

I admit the Bible can sometimes be difficult to interpret and understand. However, when it comes to the command to ...
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Buried alive by anger

Buried alive by anger

Let me tell you how anger worked its damage in the life of a friend, Larry, who for nine years, ...
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How Nelson Mandela can save your marriage

How Nelson Mandela can save your marriage

In 1990 one of the world's most famous prisoners was released from Robben Island Prison, Nelson Mandela ...
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Solving the Muslim and Christian conflict – and how that can save your marriage

I imagine there are people reading this entry who feel a lot like the middle east in their marriage. Thousands ...
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Parenting Tip: Tell your kids this thing and they will idolize you forever

Parenting Tip: Tell your kids this thing and they will idolize you forever

Me: "Son, I want to apologize for saying, 'that was dense'. It was wrong of me to say and very ...
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Faith-inspired sessions could save marriages | detnews.com | The Detroit News

Faith-inspired sessions could save marriages | detnews.com | The Detroit News

Marriage education works to save couples from divorce: Ten years ago, Rita was so disgusted with Tony that she filed ...
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Does love mean never quitting?

Does love mean never quitting?

When we wrote the book, Don't Date Naked, we wrote it because we had to.  We were so passionate about ...
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Reconciliation and Forgiveness: Do you know the difference?

I asked my wife, Amy, just seconds ago about what she would blog about in the next 20 minutes while ...
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Counter Culture Chirst - What Jesus said about love

Counter Culture Chirst – What Jesus said about love

I'm preaching a sermon tomorrow for Chippewa Valley Bible Church here in Chippewa Valley, Wisconsin.  I wanted to share with ...
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Learning to Forgive - Part 2

Learning to Forgive – Part 2

by Michael Smalley, M.A. We live in a fallen world. We are going to make mistakes that not only affect ...
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Learning to Forgive - Part 1

Learning to Forgive – Part 1

by Michael Smalley, M.A. 01/27/03 Love … What a powerful experience to know you are with the one person you ...
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Red Letters: the greatest words ever spoken about forgiveness (week 5)

Red Letters: the greatest words ever spoken about forgiveness (week 5)

What did Jesus teach us about forgiveness? Everybody has somebody they need to forgive, the question is what does Jesus ...
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Can the church save marriages?

Can the church save marriages?

Check out this recent article from the San Antonio Express news...you might recognize one of the experts quoted: Ask Wallace ...
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Live long and prosper - a family devotional

Live long and prosper – a family devotional

Children, do what your parents tell you. This is only right. "Honor your father and mother" is the first commandment ...
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The opposite of smack down

The opposite of smack down

“Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians ...
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Should we lie to our children?

Should we lie to our children?

I found this question at FunAdvice and it made me want to respond: 'Do as I say, not as I ...
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The best thing you can do for your marriage

The best thing you can do for your marriage

Research is clear, one of the best things you can do for your marriage is (long dramatic pause) have fun ...
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The Two Most Difficult Words

The Two Most Difficult Words

You may or may not have guessed what they are, but in case you haven’t, the two most difficult words ...
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How can I get my boyfriend to forgive my past?

How can I get my boyfriend to forgive my past?

The question: I've met the perfect guy in my life. But whenever we talk about my past mistakes, which I've ...
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The Smalley Marriage Constitution

The Smalley Marriage Constitution

Both Norma and I, wishing to form a more loving union, hereby document our best attempt at forming the most ...
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New Forgiveness Research

New Forgiveness Research

by Peter J. Larson, Ph.D. Recently, we surveyed 200 married adults in regards to forgiveness. We were wondering how one's ...
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The Ultimate Gift Guide

The Ultimate Gift Guide

As the father of 3-year and 18-month old daughters (with another due in April 2007), I don’t have much time ...
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You need to simplify to magnify your love for each other

You need to simplify to magnify your love for each other

A couple who attended one of our live events has recently posted this question: My husband and I were doing ...
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An important discussion on love: a reader engages in good debate

An important discussion on love: a reader engages in good debate

One of crashintolove.com's readers has posted a thoughtful response to my latest post on love and I wanted to take ...
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I'll forgive you if you forgive me

I'll forgive you if you forgive me

Forgiveness is already a complicated issue, but it seems that one pastor wants to complicate it even more for his ...
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My personal testimony of how I came to Christ and ministry

My personal testimony of how I came to Christ and ministry

Personal Testimony I was first exposed to the Gospel of Jesus Christ through the teachings of a Godly mother. Urged ...
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What every parent needs to know about the dangers of avoiding conflict.

What every parent needs to know about the dangers of avoiding conflict.

Extensive research indicates that the number one predictor of divorce is habitual avoidance of conflict.  This occurs when one or ...
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The Domino effect:  Your actions effect others

The Domino effect: Your actions effect others

The Christian world has been recently rocked with news of the Rev. Haggard’s admitted sexual immorality and other indiscretions. There ...
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Forgiveness:  Moving past the past

Forgiveness: Moving past the past

Let’s face it; we’ve all done something stupid at some point in our lives. It may be something that embarrassed ...
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Is there an open door with sharing Christ with Muslims?

Is there an open door with sharing Christ with Muslims?

We are living in another desperate time in history. Every century, someone or some group on earth takes up the ...
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The power of forgiveness - part one

The power of forgiveness – part one

Love. . . What a powerful experience to know you are with the one person you believe to be the ...
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Four Incredible Words - Will You Forgive Me?

Four Incredible Words – Will You Forgive Me?

What a powerful experience to know you are with the one person you believe to be the only person right ...
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How do you forgive someone who won't change

How do you forgive someone who won't change

Here's a question I received this morning: How do you forgive someone who continues to lie and do what they ...
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Drinking by young adults - why this happens

Drinking by young adults – why this happens

I was reading my usual USA Today paper this morning and on the front page in its "USA TODAY Snapshots" ...
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What to do if you hate your dad

What to do if you hate your dad

After posting my thoughts last night, I woke up this morning concerned about women, or men, who might hate their ...
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The foundation for successful parenting

The foundation for successful parenting

The most important gift we can give our children is the gift of unconditional love. At the core of every ...
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Sexual fantasies revealed in 3 steps!

Sexual fantasies revealed in 3 steps!

By Michael Smalley Now that I have your attention let us get down to business. Too many couples suffer from ...
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