April 1, 2017

Dating or Engaged

The rising risk of being ghosted

The rising risk of being ghosted

There’s a rising risk to dating in this day and age...and it’s name is Ghosted. Never heard of someone being ...
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The best dating advice ever

The best dating advice ever

“I'm in a relationship, its been 2 years, he's jealous, controlling and negative.  Every time I tell him it's not ...
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Successful dating in college

Successful dating in college

This episode you get to hear from my own college student on dating, and what it takes to be successful ...
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2 massively important things you must do for your relationship

2 massively important things you must do for your relationship

My friend (or acquaintance) Seth Johnson was in studio for what turned out to be a really good talk about ...
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Poll: What would your wife do if you had planned a surprise wedding?

Poll: What would your wife do if you had planned a surprise wedding?

ABC News ran a story... [quote style="boxed"]The couple, who got engaged while Butler was overseas, was supposed to have an ...
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Why do you really argue or get upset?

Why do you really argue or get upset?

If you've ever felt stuck, or that you keep arguing about the same things over and over again...then you need ...
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The personality series – #2 – The Social Director (Episode 52)

The personality series – #2 – The Social Director (Episode 52)

Do you ever wonder what's wrong with your spouse? You may be married to a Social Director! So listen up ...
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Does your marriage see the big picture or get lost in the small things - Intensive advice for couples (episode 3)

Does your marriage see the big picture or get lost in the small things – Intensive advice for couples (episode 3)

Announcer: Get ready for simple intensive advice for couples with Michael Smalley. Michael: Do you have a macro or micro ...
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The personality series - #1 - The Lion

The personality series – #1 – The Lion

A new series on personality styles, and in this episode learn about The Lion and what it takes if you ...
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If your plan isn’t working maybe you should do something different (Episode 44)

If your plan isn’t working maybe you should do something different (Episode 44)

Maybe your relationship is miserable because you’ve been using your own plans, and it’s about high time you tried someone ...
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The Heart of a Remarried Husband

The Heart of a Remarried Husband

"Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance." ...
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Remarriage: Loss, Pain & Change!

Remarriage: Loss, Pain & Change!

We often tell remarried couples that if we had only one hour to spend with them, we would use the ...
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The heart of remarriage

The heart of remarriage

When Matt and Mandy decided to get married, they vowed to do it right. They would love each other till ...
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The Washington Post says Gore divorce a good example for us all

The Washington Post says Gore divorce a good example for us all

Simply amazing how someone could actually try to argue for the merits of divorce! ...
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Should this woman stay engaged to her fiance?

Should this woman stay engaged to her fiance?

Should you dump a guy who cheats on you during your engagement? ...
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A Communication Tool

A Communication Tool

You've probably already practiced LUV Talk whether you realized it or not. Every time you pass through a drive-through window ...
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A must read article from TIME: Is there hope for the American Marriage

My friend, Jeff Fray, over at the Marriage CoMission, shared the link to this TIME magazine article.  It is a ...
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Parenting Tip: How can you mess with your kid today?

Parenting Tip: How can you mess with your kid today?

I'm in Boise, Idaho working with Unity Media Group (www.iquestions.com) on a new premarital curriculum. Dennis Mansfield was gracious enough ...
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Conflict Resolution Part 2: Why don't you just back off each other!

Conflict Resolution Part 2: Why don't you just back off each other!

In Part 1 of this 5 part series on conflict resolution you learned how Chic-fil-a can help you resolve your ...
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Wedded abyss: how to avoid a bitter, lonely marriage via Port Lincoln Times

Wedded abyss: how to avoid a bitter, lonely marriage via Port Lincoln Times

Would you ever subject yourself to the "Love Lab"? A HEAVY-SET young man slumps in his chair, looking bored and ...
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An excellent paper on the negative effects of pornography

An excellent paper on the negative effects of pornography

I've been engaged in a great discussion from my previous post "Danger lurks behind the new iPhone 3.0 software update ...
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When should you break up?

When should you break up?

I felt a tad voyeuristic when I tweeted about a couple who was having a horrible fight at a restaurant ...
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Marital bliss plummets after birth of first child

Marital bliss plummets after birth of first child

Getting a better understanding of having babies and its effect on the marriage: This news won't shock many parents: Having ...
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Seven Reasons Why Living Together Before Marriage is not a Good Idea

Seven Reasons Why Living Together Before Marriage is not a Good Idea

Seven Reasons Why Living Together Before Marriage is not a Good Idea « My Lord and My BlogI’m preparing a ...
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Catholic Marriage Counseling Is Driving Couples Away

Catholic Marriage Counseling Is Driving Couples Away

I'm not so sure the US News and World Report should have allowed this lady to post this. It reads ...
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Engaged couples should focus more on marriage than wedding

Engaged couples should focus more on marriage than wedding

I am so excited to read an article like the following! We need to develop a culture of marriage in ...
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Learning to Forgive - Part 1

Learning to Forgive – Part 1

by Michael Smalley, M.A. 01/27/03 Love … What a powerful experience to know you are with the one person you ...
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The Pro's And Con's Of Cohabitation (What a joke!)

The Pro's And Con's Of Cohabitation (What a joke!)

(Officially, there is absolutely zero research that confirms any benefit of cohabitation! As you will notice, the pros in this ...
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The risk of cohabitation before marriage

The risk of cohabitation before marriage

Scott Stanley is one of the most respected marriage and relationship experts in the world.  Check out what he has ...
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Cohabitation just doesn't work

Cohabitation just doesn't work

In a recent interview, Michael McManus shares why cohabitation hurts a future marriage: Taking the life of cohabitation for a ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

I've got cold feet about my wedding…what do I do?

Q: I'm engaged and am starting to get cold feet about the wedding. How can I know if it's right for ...
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Michael and Amy Smalley

Should we move in together before we get married?

Q: We're engaged, but aren't getting married for a year. We want to move in together but our family is discouraging ...
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Can the church save marriages?

Can the church save marriages?

Check out this recent article from the San Antonio Express news...you might recognize one of the experts quoted: Ask Wallace ...
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The issue with love

The issue with love

The latest issue of TIME magazine is trying to tackle the issue of love, or more specifically, why we love ...
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Engaged Couples Rarely Discuss Sex, Finances Or Other Issues Before Wedding

Engaged Couples Rarely Discuss Sex, Finances Or Other Issues Before Wedding

Check out the full article here: In the euphoria of engagement and hubbub of wedding planning, brides and grooms avoid ...
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Get educated now on the benefits of a covenant marriage

Get educated now on the benefits of a covenant marriage

I keep running into this same kind of argument when it comes to people going against covenant marriages: Laws that ...
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Save your community from divorce

Save your community from divorce

Communities across the U.S. are finally starting to understand the importance of a community marriage policy.  Check out the latest ...
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The strongest case against cohabitation I've ever read!

The strongest case against cohabitation I've ever read!

Duane Sheppard has written one of the best articles I've ever read on the case against cohabitation.  Here is the ...
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Should we lie to our children?

Should we lie to our children?

I found this question at FunAdvice and it made me want to respond: 'Do as I say, not as I ...
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Great news for marriages in Texas

Great news for marriages in Texas

Diane Sollee from Smart Marriages had this to say recently about the work done in Texas for marriages: This is ...
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The new launch of the Smalley Premarriage Education Experience

The new launch of the Smalley Premarriage Education Experience

I'm proud to announce the launching of our newest one-day program, the Smalley Premarriage Education Experience. If you are getting ...
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Should I get married if he still seems attached to someone else

Should I get married if he still seems attached to someone else

The question: We’re going to be getting married, so what do you do with a guy who won’t throw out ...
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Praying together as a couple

Praying together as a couple

Psalms 69:13  "But I pray to you, O LORD, in the time of your favor; in your great love, O ...
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Will premarital sex destroy my future marriage?

Will premarital sex destroy my future marriage?

The question: My small group youth leader past "don't date naked" to me and I have enjoyed it thus far ...
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Should my boyfriend and I pray more together?

Should my boyfriend and I pray more together?

The question: This has been something that’s been bugging me for quite a number of months. Not so much bugging ...
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Great news, the Saudi's are helping out marriages...you won't believe this one!

Great news, the Saudi's are helping out marriages…you won't believe this one!

I want to be happy for them and I want to believe that they are truly wanting to help these ...
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What every parent must know about teen pregnancy

What every parent must know about teen pregnancy

I got the call in the late afternoon and it was a family from my church. The father sounded extremely ...
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The perfect wedding gift

The perfect wedding gift

You have a special person in your life that is getting married.  What is the perfect gift?  One suggestion is ...
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Has marriage lost its meaning

Has marriage lost its meaning

Maybe you don't need to get married anymore. It's just a piece of paper, right? What could a marriage ceremony ...
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Why marriages are the minority in the U.S. - an intersting take on this enormous issue

Why marriages are the minority in the U.S. – an intersting take on this enormous issue

I wrote a previous post highlighting a recent American Community Survey that revealed, for the first time in history, that ...
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The power of forgiveness - part one

The power of forgiveness – part one

Love. . . What a powerful experience to know you are with the one person you believe to be the ...
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Are you auditioning for the role of the spouse? Why cohabitation doesn't work.

Are you auditioning for the role of the spouse? Why cohabitation doesn't work.

During our dating and early married phase of our relationship my husband and I made many poor choices. Christ was ...
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'It's Tearing Families Apart' - war and its toll on marriages

'It's Tearing Families Apart' – war and its toll on marriages

Newsweek, in an article titled "It's tearing families apart": With the 4-23's battalion's Baghdad tour dragging on, Capt. Brad Velotta ...
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Questions answered: What to do when your spouse doesn't want as many kids as you

Questions answered: What to do when your spouse doesn't want as many kids as you

Here's a question from one of my readers: What do you do when two spouses do not agree on how ...
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Why Do Good Marriages Go Bad?

Why Do Good Marriages Go Bad?

There once was a man who ate lunch at a restaurant on the Florida Coast. The man had heard of ...
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What Every Engaged Couple Needs Before Marriage!

What Every Engaged Couple Needs Before Marriage!

If you're engaged, or you know someone getting married, give them the gift of forever love! Would You Believe? This ...
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Great ideas for engaged couples to be productively busy

Great ideas for engaged couples to be productively busy

When it seems as though you've run out of things to do together, make sure you spend time together on ...
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Regaining your virginity

Regaining your virginity

Over eighty percent of Christian singles have reported having sex before marriage.  Yet, 99.9% of all churches teach their singles ...
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How do you leave and cleave from your parents?

How do you leave and cleave from your parents?

There are many ways to cleave to one another – physically, emotionally, relationally, and spiritually. Let’s take a look at ...
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Four Incredible Words - Will You Forgive Me?

Four Incredible Words – Will You Forgive Me?

What a powerful experience to know you are with the one person you believe to be the only person right ...
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Are you expecting? A danger for engaged couples.

Are you expecting? A danger for engaged couples.

Don't let the title of this article mislead you. We are not talking about pregnancy! This isn’t an article on ...
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Becoming a person people want to be around

Becoming a person people want to be around

Rick is one of my friends from church and even though we've only had a few conversations with each other, ...
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Drinking by young adults - why this happens

Drinking by young adults – why this happens

I was reading my usual USA Today paper this morning and on the front page in its "USA TODAY Snapshots" ...
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Expensive weddings equal a lifetime of happiness…or do they?

Expensive weddings equal a lifetime of happiness…or do they?

Sounds like a ridiculous title for an article, doesn’t it? Not so fast…The average wedding in America now costs $19,000 ...
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Strategic Romance

Strategic Romance

When Sheri and I speak publicly, we almost always make the point that our romantic relationship has never been better ...
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