April 1, 2017

Conflict Resolution

When you mess up big time

When you mess up big time

One of you, our amazing listeners, has submitted an impossible question...so of course we are going to take on this ...
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Why our spouse drives us mad

Why our spouse drives us mad

For today’s show, we are going to take you deeper than ever before...all the way back to your childhood. Because ...
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Let it go already

Let it go already

I’ve got a confession to make. For the majority of my marriage I have done something that has actively hurt ...
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The most damaging thing you can think

The most damaging thing you can think

Today’s show is going to get a little aggressive, because frankly, I’m sick and tired of hearing this phrase. To ...
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Diagnosing your spouse

Diagnosing your spouse

Have you ever wondered or even researched online possible personality or mood disorders your spouse might have?  Then this is ...
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Interview with John Gray - Mars and Venus revisited

Interview with John Gray – Mars and Venus revisited

Today we have a special guest, that you probably heard of. John Gray is the best-selling author of Men are ...
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He makes me so mad and other lies

He makes me so mad and other lies

If you have ever said, “He makes me so…” Then have we got a show for you! Because there’s something ...
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Arguing about money

Arguing about money

Today we are going to talk about money. I’m sure none of you have ever experienced conflict over money. So ...
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Redemption isn't a myth part three

Redemption isn’t a myth part three

Here we go with part three of Peter and Holly's story of redemption!  Redemption isn't a myth is the title of ...
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How to approach sensitive subjects

How to approach sensitive subjects

Sometimes a couple needs to have an important conversation about a sensitive subject. Like the time my own wife had ...
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The greatest illustration ever

The greatest illustration ever

You’ve possibly heard that you’re suppose to turn the other cheek when someone hurts you. Jesus said it, which means ...
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Men vs Women

Men vs Women

It’s the battle of the ages . . . . the Royal Rumble . . . . the Clash of ...
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Getting your husband to help

Getting your husband to help

We are quite possibly taking on the most difficult question in the history of the world today on the show ...
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Is marriage worth fighting for?

Is marriage worth fighting for?

Today we are taking a question from one of you, the listener. “How do I know if my marriage is ...
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Is your relationship doomed to fail?

Is your relationship doomed to fail?

Today’s show is for all those listeners who’ve ever felt their marriage can’t possibly survive something horrible. The truth is, ...
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If your spouse just can't take it anymore

If your spouse just can’t take it anymore

Today’s show is for all the individuals out there who’ve ever heard the words, “I just can’t take it any ...
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What to do when NOTHING changes

What to do when NOTHING changes

“My husband and I just finished watching your webinar (Feb. 25), which we loved, thank you, and we posted the ...
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Overcoming the biggest risk factor of divorce

Overcoming the biggest risk factor of divorce

“How do you communicate, or what words can you share, when you begin to speak the man perceives a negative ...
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Should he get out of the marriage?

Should he get out of the marriage?

“After 18 yrs of marriage and lots of marriage problems, I had a one time affair after a big fight ...
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When your husband lies

When your husband lies

“My husband struggles with honesty. I don't say anything about it to him, but have been praying for years that ...
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Am I a fool for staying?

Am I a fool for staying?

Today we are taking another one of your questions, one of our amazing listeners after going through our Smalley Marriage ...
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Can you force reconciliation?

Can you force reconciliation?

A listener’s question after years of intimacy issues, neglect, and eventually getting kicked out of the home, asks, “Do I ...
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One thing you just can't ever do

One thing you just can’t ever do

Today we are taking one of your questions, “After every disagreement or fight he is always asking if I want ...
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What it means to love

What it means to love

The core of a Smalley Marriage Intensive is that we teach couples what it means to love, how to be ...
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How to resolve any conflict that upsets you

How to resolve any conflict that upsets you

You ever feel this way when your feelings get hurt or an expectation isn’t met? We’ve got the solution for ...
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How to survive an emotional affair

How to survive an emotional affair

A question from one of you, the listening audience, “How do you get past your emotions when your husband was ...
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How EQ can change everything

How EQ can change everything

In 1990, Yale psychologists John D. Mayer and Peter Salovey originally coined a term that quite possibly has changed the ...
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What if you're married but not compatible

What if you’re married but not compatible

What happens if you realize that you’re not compatible...and it’s with your spouse? Compatibility has become a huge buzzword in ...
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The Prodigal Spouse

The Prodigal Spouse

Ever feel like you’re spouse just won’t change? Maybe your spouse has gone off the deep end, ditched the faith, ...
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How to repair hurt

How to repair hurt

“If your spouse wants to separate, & moves out, and then after a week says they want to work on ...
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How do I reach my wife emotionally

How do I reach my wife emotionally

A question from one of our listeners in Maryland who asked, “How do I reach my wife emotionally!!!” That’s coming ...
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Killing romance by 'phubbing'

Killing romance by ‘phubbing’

It's the ultimate modern-day snub. When you're at a fancy dinner, and all of a sudden your date responds to ...
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How couples can survive financial hardship

How couples can survive financial hardship

You’re not going to believe what researchers found to be the best way for couples to survive financial troubles. When ...
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Resolving cell phone etiquitte

Resolving cell phone etiquitte

The problem with hurting marriage is their inability to resolve conflict, and trust us, cell phone etiquitte is at the ...
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Faking it really does work!

Faking it really does work!

Seth...is lying ever a good thing in a relationship? WELL YOU’RE WRONG! Actually, it depends if you’re lying or trying ...
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Who is the most likely to cheat?

Who is the most likely to cheat?

Ran across an interesting study recently that answered the question of who’s most likely to cheat in a committed relationship ...
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Succeeding as a dual income family

Succeeding as a dual income family

The dual income family is the norm in today’s society, what are the most important things you have to do ...
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Change your world and make it better today!

Change your world and make it better today!

Jesus was once asked what the most important commands were, His answer should shape everything about us, and especially how ...
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4 things you can do to help your kids succeed in school

4 things you can do to help your kids succeed in school

Did you know that the biggest reason your kid is going to succeed in school has everything to do with ...
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How to protect your marriage from social media

How to protect your marriage from social media

Social media is listed in the majority of divorce filing today in America! Discover exactly what it takes to protect ...
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Question: Is sex a want or a need?

Question: Is sex a want or a need?

Question: I would like this question answered if possible...My wife thinks sex is a want, and I say sex is ...
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8 ideas to protect your marriage from divorce

8 ideas to protect your marriage from divorce

If you can name the artist and song title of what we just played….we will give you….nothing, honestly, but we’ll ...
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How would you like to ensure the success of your relationship?

How would you like to ensure the success of your relationship?

Would you be interested in virtually insuring the success and passion for your relationship? You’d better learn then what commitment ...
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Sowing the seeds of love - earning back trust

Sowing the seeds of love – earning back trust

In the previous show, we were discussing Trust, as a major foundation to any healthy relationship. So what happens when ...
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Earn the right to be trustworthy once again

Earn the right to be trustworthy once again

Have you heard recently from anyone close to you something like, “I can’t believe…” Then you’ve broken someone’s trust. Today ...
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Part 4 of The 9 ways you can tell your relationship isn't working

Part 4 of The 9 ways you can tell your relationship isn’t working

Want to know what the scariest thing that can happen in a relationship is? It’s bad, and possibly a guaranteed ...
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Part 3 of The 9 ways you know your relationship just isn't working

Part 3 of The 9 ways you know your relationship just isn’t working

Are you on Facebook? Are you in a committed relationship or marriage? Then you might want to rethink being on ...
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9 ways you can tell your relationship just isn't working

9 ways you can tell your relationship just isn’t working

Today on SMR you’re going to learn the 9 ways you can tell your relationship isn’t working and then what ...
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Three simple things you can do to seek forgiveness part three

Three simple things you can do to seek forgiveness part three

Part three of our seeking forgiveness shows! Stop losing energy from your past mistakes. Become a member at SmalleyInstitute.com (We've ...
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Three simple things you can do to seek forgiveness part two

Three simple things you can do to seek forgiveness part two

Part two of what you can do to seek forgiveness because everyone makes mistakes sometimes. Become a member at SmalleyInstitute.com ...
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Three simple things you can do to seek forgiveness

Three simple things you can do to seek forgiveness

What a great song! Never heard any band say quite so well. Thank you to the Black Lillies and their ...
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Two words that can improve your marriage part two

Two words that can improve your marriage part two

I recently came across an article titled, “The Two Simple Words That Are Greatly Improving My Marriage (And, No, They're ...
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Two words that will greatly improve your marriage

Two words that will greatly improve your marriage

I recently came across an article titled, “The Two Simple Words That Are Greatly Improving My Marriage (And, No, They're ...
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The animal personality series - The Wrap-up

The animal personality series – The Wrap-up

Actually, we’ve already been to the zoo over the last few episodes. If you missed any of the Personality series, ...
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The animal personality series - The Beaver

The animal personality series – The Beaver

Interesting facts about Beavers: Beavers are second only to humans in their ability to manipulate their environment - the largest ...
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The animal personality series - The Golden Retriever

The animal personality series – The Golden Retriever

If you need a hug, a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, or just someone who really cares for ...
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The animal personality series - The Otter

The animal personality series – The Otter

Otters just want to have fun! But how do you love an Otter and what do Otters need to know ...
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The animal personality series - The Lion

The animal personality series – The Lion

That, as you may have already guessed, was the not so subtle roar of a mature lion. Interesting fact about ...
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My husband throws me under the bus with stepchildren part two

My husband throws me under the bus with stepchildren part two

A listener asked, "This is my first marriage and my husbands third. The dynamics of stepfamilies is different from that ...
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My husband throws me under the bus with my stepchildren

My husband throws me under the bus with my stepchildren

A listener asked, "This is my first marriage and my husbands third. The dynamics of stepfamilies is different from that ...
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How do I handle a LOVE Talk breakdown in communication?

How do I handle a LOVE Talk breakdown in communication?

By far the most important relationship tool we teach at Smalley Institute is a communication method we call LOVE Talk ...
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How do I overcome fear of being a failure or criticized?

How do I overcome fear of being a failure or criticized?

Question from a listener, "Can you speak to the root of Core Fears/"hot buttons"? For example, one of my Core ...
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What can I do if my spouse refuses to change?

What can I do if my spouse refuses to change?

Question from a listener, “I know that whenever there are relationship problems, there are problems on both sides. We both ...
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The cost of divorce part 2

The cost of divorce part 2

Ok, we’ve got to be completely honest with you today...yesterday we did a show on the Church and Christian community ...
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The true cost of divorce

The true cost of divorce

Ok, we’ve got to be completely honest with you today...yesterday we did a show on the Church and Christian community ...
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The single most powerful way to change your relationship

The single most powerful way to change your relationship

You’re about to hear, probably, some of the most important statistics of your life. Did you know that business lose ...
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Discover how just two days can make all the difference for your marriage

Discover how just two days can make all the difference for your marriage

What could you possibly do in two days to turn your relationship around? Actually, we’ve discovered you can do quite ...
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Healing for hurting marriage in just 2 days

Healing for hurting marriage in just 2 days

I know what you’re thinking right now...you’re miserable. Your marriage hasn’t turned out like you dreamed it would, and you ...
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It only takes 30 seconds to turn your relationship around

It only takes 30 seconds to turn your relationship around

So this guy came up to me at break at a seminar once, practically dragging his sweet wife to the ...
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Possibly the one thing everybody has to do

That was the classic song from Brenda Lee titled, I’m Sorry. What are you sorry about? What are you hurting ...
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The most powerful question you can ever ask if you want a healthy relationship

The most powerful question you can ever ask if you want a healthy relationship

Did you know there is one question you can learn to ask that can instantly reignite your relationship? In fact, ...
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Photo by Alexandre Dulaunoy

If your marriage is hurting – take charge of the change

What you are about to hear, you won’t want to, nor will you even believe it. But everything you are ...
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Photo by BK

When bitterness creeps in you’ve got a faith crisis

The most popular article on our website was written by my amazing wife, it’s title is “A sharp word of ...
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Photo by Chris Potter

The risk factor of negative beliefs that leads to divorce

What is the worst thing you could do to virtually ensure the destruction of your relationship? If you can’t answer ...
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photo by Moyan Brenn

The risk factor of dishonor that leads to divorce

Did you know there are only four things you can do to ruin your relationship? Don’t believe me? Then you ...
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The germ causing divorce we like to call avoidance

The germ causing divorce we like to call avoidance

Did you know there are only four things you can do to ruin your relationship? Don’t believe me? Then you ...
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The 4 risk factors of divorce and what you can't do

The 4 risk factors of divorce and what you can’t do

Did you know there are only four things you can do to ruin your relationship? Don’t believe me? Then you ...
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The LOVE Talk wrap-up show

The LOVE Talk wrap-up show

Over the last 6 shows you’ve learned the core skill taught in every one of our Smalley REIGNITE Marriage Intensives, ...
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Win - Win solutions are the heart of any dynamic relationship

Win – Win solutions are the heart of any dynamic relationship

You are catching us at the tail end of our series on LOVE Talk, the most powerful communication method on ...
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The role of customer - share in a way that others can't help but validate you

The role of customer – share in a way that others can’t help but validate you

The last time we were with you, you discovered the role of employee and how that may be the most ...
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The employee rules - finally learn how to listen like a champion

The employee rules – finally learn how to listen like a champion

Previously on Smalley Marriage Radio you discovered the most powerful way to stop STUPID conflict by using a time-out. Today, ...
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The power of a time-out so you can stop stupid arguments

The power of a time-out so you can stop stupid arguments

In the last show you discovered the most important word picture in the history of the world when it comes ...
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The most powerful and easy way to understand the heart of communication

The most powerful and easy way to understand the heart of communication

Last show we talked about the importance of having structure in how you resolve conflict. So you can’t just go ...
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by Eleni Papaioannou

LOVE Talk, the most powerful communication method on earth!

Do you ever get into conflict? I’m in conflict every other day with my wife! And we help couples for ...
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25 tips to manage ADHD in your marriage

25 tips to manage ADHD in your marriage

ADHD doesn't just impact kids, it also impacts marriages.  This week we unpack exactly what me and Amy had to ...
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Make this New Year's one to remember!

Make this New Year’s one to remember!

You want a fresh start for the New Year, but maybe you're just not sure about what to do...no worries! ...
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The infection of anger

The infection of anger

The worst infection of all a person can get is unresolved anger! It destroys your life and negatively impacts everything ...
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4 things you can do to survive a difficult person

4 things you can do to survive a difficult person

Adolf Hitler, Judas Iscariot, Vlad the Impaler, Jeffrey Dahmer, Muammar Gaddafi, so what do all these people have in common? ...
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This is your teenager's brain - this is your teenager's brain on criticism

This is your teenager’s brain – this is your teenager’s brain on criticism

"It may seem to parents that teenagers pick a fight over the tiniest details or problems - and they’re probably ...
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4 signs your marriage is headed for divorce

4 signs your marriage is headed for divorce

The last show was an interview with the guy who saved my marriage. Dr. Scott Stanley is a brilliant researcher ...
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An interview with the guy who saved my marriage

An interview with the guy who saved my marriage

Dr. Scott Stanley is a guest today, you will want to listen because I credit Scott with saving my own ...
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The 5th mistake people make in relationships - handling conflict poorly (Episode 63)

The 5th mistake people make in relationships – handling conflict poorly (Episode 63)

In today’s show you will....discover the 2 worst ways you can respond to conflict and how to eliminate them from ...
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The 4th mistake people make in relationships (Episode 62)

The 4th mistake people make in relationships (Episode 62)

In today’s show you will.... We've landed on the 4th mistake (out of 5) people make in their relationships...trying to ...
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The 2nd of the 5 biggest mistakes people make in relationships (Episode 60)

The 2nd of the 5 biggest mistakes people make in relationships (Episode 60)

In today’s show you will.... learn what the five biggest mistakes people make in any relationship are, and how to ...
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The 5 biggest mistakes people make in relationships (Episode 59)

The 5 biggest mistakes people make in relationships (Episode 59)

In today’s show you will.... learn what the five biggest mistakes people make in any relationship are, and how to ...
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The Lion and Golden Retriever relationship revealed (Episode 56)

The Lion and Golden Retriever relationship revealed (Episode 56)

This is one of the more common marriages we’ve found through our own research. Lions love Golden Retrievers and Golden ...
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Why do you really argue or get upset?

Why do you really argue or get upset?

If you've ever felt stuck, or that you keep arguing about the same things over and over again...then you need ...
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The personality series – #4 – The Beaver (Episode 54)

The personality series – #4 – The Beaver (Episode 54)

Learn who the Beaver is and how you can achieve balance as a Beaver and how to relate with one ...
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The personality series – #3 – The Golden Retriever (Episode 53)

The personality series – #3 – The Golden Retriever (Episode 53)

Learn about the most precious, kind, and best listening animal in the personality kingdom, The Golden Retriever. And by the ...
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The personality series – #2 – The Social Director (Episode 52)

The personality series – #2 – The Social Director (Episode 52)

Do you ever wonder what's wrong with your spouse? You may be married to a Social Director! So listen up ...
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The personality series - #1 - The Lion

The personality series – #1 – The Lion

A new series on personality styles, and in this episode learn about The Lion and what it takes if you ...
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How To Feel Understood When Communicating With Your Mate

How To Feel Understood When Communicating With Your Mate

He who restrains his words has knowledge, And he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. -- ...
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More on the craziness trying to fly to China!

More on the craziness trying to fly to China!

You will never believe the adventure, tragedy, turmoil, and frustration it took to get Cole and me to China. I'm ...
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Remarriage: Blending Two Worlds

Remarriage: Blending Two Worlds

Remember there are adjustments in remarriage, especially if there are children from a previous marriage. Whether you have remarried after ...
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Making touch meaningful

Making touch meaningful

Couples need to create emotional bonding times. Keeping the flames of romance alive may not always seem as important as ...
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To divorce or not to divorce...that is the question (Episode 41)

To divorce or not to divorce…that is the question (Episode 41)

The new discernment counseling - to divorce or not to divorce that is the question In today’s show you will ...
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It doesn't begin in the bedroom

It doesn't begin in the bedroom

A marriage can’t be sustained with romance alone. But added to security, meaningful communication, and meaningful touch, it can be ...
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What's on your menu?

What's on your menu?

Communication is the single most effective way to deepen intimacy in any relationship, whether it’s with your mate, family, friends, ...
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Book report: Real Marriage - Chapter 2 'Friends with Benefits' (Episode 20)

Book report: Real Marriage – Chapter 2 'Friends with Benefits' (Episode 20)

Michael discusses chapter 2 from Mark and Grace Driscoll's Real Marriage. Learn the importance of building a lasting friendship with ...
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3 Steps to better communication - an interview with Gary Smalley (Episode 15)

3 Steps to better communication – an interview with Gary Smalley (Episode 15)

The first ever Skype interview for the Smalley Podcast is with Michael's dad, Gary Smalley! Gary shares, or as Michael ...
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The first rule in healthy conflict resolution (Episode 3)

The first rule in healthy conflict resolution (Episode 3)

Learn what the absolutely best thing in the world is to do when conflict erupts in your marriage ...
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The art of timing

The art of timing

There’s more to effective communication than putting together and then practicing the right message. Picking the right time and place ...
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How to bridge the differences

How to bridge the differences

As mentioned earlier, an emotional word picture is a communication tool that uses a story or object to activate simultaneously ...
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I told you so

I told you so

Words have awesome power to build us up or tear us down emotionally. Many people can clearly remember words of ...
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Communicating from the Word - Go

Communicating from the Word – Go

Gary: A lot has been written and said about how to communicate in marriage. I should know—I’ve done my share ...
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Rules for couple's conflict

Rules for couple's conflict

1. Clearly define the problem. Clarify what the actual conflict is first. Then, see if there is any other reason ...
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The question is: How can I honor God and my husband?

The question is: How can I honor God and my husband?

Question: I believe we should tithe, but my husband doesn’t. My husband is a Christian, but he believes tithing isn’t ...
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A surprising way to a stronger marriage - Eliminate unhappiness

A surprising way to a stronger marriage – Eliminate unhappiness

We like starting off chapters with a powerful illustration that brings home the point of the chapter in a way ...
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A Surprising Way to a Stronger Marriage - Introduction

A Surprising Way to a Stronger Marriage – Introduction

Chapter 01 Introduction Their faces were filled with anguish as they approached us after one of our sessions at a ...
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the DNA of Relationships: The joy can be yours - Part 3

the DNA of Relationships: The joy can be yours – Part 3

We all want warm, fulfilling relationships—in our marriages, in our families, in our friendships, and in the workplace. I long ...
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Remarriage: Focus on Creating a Safe Marriage Environment

Remarriage: Focus on Creating a Safe Marriage Environment

Intimacy occurs effortlessly and naturally when two hearts are open to one another. In its most basic sense, intimacy is ...
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The heart of remarriage

The heart of remarriage

When Matt and Mandy decided to get married, they vowed to do it right. They would love each other till ...
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What is a webinar you ask?

What is a webinar you ask?

We are so excited about our first webinar coming June 30th, 2010! I will be doing a two-hour event on ...
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About a Girl: a guide on how a man can love his wife!

About a Girl: a guide on how a man can love his wife!

I want to encourage everyone reading this that the series is not going to be a male bashing experience ...
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Choices That Impact Your Marriage

Choices That Impact Your Marriage

God has given you the ability to choose. Next to the gift of His Son Jesus, this is the most ...
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The Secrets to a Secure Marriage

The Secrets to a Secure Marriage

Studies have shown various stages of love such as—the delight of infatuation, the challenge of post-rapture, the excitement of discovery, ...
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The psychology of Santa and what your kids really want this Christmas

The psychology of Santa and what your kids really want this Christmas

Dr. Carole Slotterback analyzed 1,200 letters from children to Santa ...
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Conflict resolution advice from a Duck

Conflict resolution advice from a Duck

What can a duck teach us about conflict resolution? Watch and find out ...
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Communication - it's complicated!

Communication – it's complicated!

Effective communication is a complex business. If you go into it expecting things to flow easily and without a lot ...
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A Communication Tool

A Communication Tool

You've probably already practiced LUV Talk whether you realized it or not. Every time you pass through a drive-through window ...
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Eliminating Defensiveness Eliminates Unhappiness

Eliminating Defensiveness Eliminates Unhappiness

We like starting off chapters with a powerful illustration that brings home the point of the chapter in a way ...
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People who multitask may be bad at it

People who multitask may be bad at it

The people who multitask the most are the ones who are worst at it. That's the surprising conclusion of researchers ...
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Marriage: The Need to Feel a Mutual Commitment and Security

Marriage: The Need to Feel a Mutual Commitment and Security

Relationship expert Dr. Scott Stanley's definition of commitment is twofold. First, he says, commitment involves constraints. Constraints are those forces ...
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The Top 10 mistakes couples make during conflict

The Top 10 mistakes couples make during conflict

What causes divorce? Seems like a complicated question, but in reality, it is quite simple.  Researchers like Drs. Scott Stanley, ...
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Conflict Resolution Part 5: How to win every argument with your spouse

This is my last installment of a five part series on resolving conflict with your spouse (or anyone for that ...
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Conflict Resolution Part 4: Four easy steps to be heard and understood in marriage

Conflict Resolution Part 4: Four easy steps to be heard and understood in marriage

Do you ever imagine how your spouse might react to a situation, and then get upset even though your spouse ...
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Conflict Resolution Part #3: 5 ways to becoming a great listener

Conflict Resolution Part #3: 5 ways to becoming a great listener

You've learned in parts 1 and 2 of my conflict resolution series why it is important to have a structure ...
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Conflict Resolution Part 2: Why don't you just back off each other!

Conflict Resolution Part 2: Why don't you just back off each other!

In Part 1 of this 5 part series on conflict resolution you learned how Chic-fil-a can help you resolve your ...
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chic-fil-a

Conflict Resolution Part 1: Why Chic-fil-a will help solve all your relationship conflict

What do Chic-fil-a and conflict resolution have in common? Everything! The method I'm going to teach you in this five-part ...
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Conflict Resolution

A five part series featuring conflict resolution for couples

You want to know how to resolve conflict with your mate, so I am going to teach you in a ...
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divorce

How to have a successful second marriage

No one likes divorce, especially a guy who works very hard at helping couples to avoid it. But there are ...
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love

The 5 acts of love that will totally rock your marriage

There are five acts of love that will totally rock your marriage!  They might sound kind of cliche at first, ...
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'Satisfied Dissatisfaction' is Key to Marital Growth

'Satisfied Dissatisfaction' is Key to Marital Growth

What is the most important thing in a marriage relationship? Communication? The ability to resolve conflict? Actually, neither. 'Satisfied Dissatisfaction' ...
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Feeling defensive? The secret to nonverbal communication

Feeling defensive? The secret to nonverbal communication

"Does crossing your arms indicate that you're feeling defensive? Are shifty eyes the mark of a liar? There has been ...
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Five ways to resolve conflict in your marriage

Five ways to resolve conflict in your marriage

Psychcentral.com has a great article on how to resolve conflict in a marriage.  I have included the first 3 out ...
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The 28 rules for resolving conflict with your children (and the scripture to help you further understand)

The 28 rules for resolving conflict with your children (and the scripture to help you further understand)

When you get into conflict with your children, it doesn't have to be the end of the world, or even ...
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Understanding why you fight

Understanding why you fight

Understanding why you fight is half the battle; actually, it is the battle when it comes to conflict resolution. The ...
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When little girls fight

When little girls fight

I was a hero tonight. Well, at least I was a hero in my own way. In fact, now that ...
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My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 4)

My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 4)

With each step in this marriage it feels like we are going in opposite directions ...
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My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 3)

My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 3)

We live in constant frustration towards each other. Please help ...
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My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 2)

My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 2)

My wife and I need help getting on the same page. With each step in this marriage it feels like ...
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My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 1)

My wife and I need help getting on the same page (part 1)

Q: My wife and I need help getting on the same page. With each step in this marriage it feels ...
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Engaged Couples Rarely Discuss Sex, Finances Or Other Issues Before Wedding

Engaged Couples Rarely Discuss Sex, Finances Or Other Issues Before Wedding

Check out the full article here: In the euphoria of engagement and hubbub of wedding planning, brides and grooms avoid ...
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A marriage revelation

A marriage revelation

I recently spoke to a woman whose marriage is going through some difficulties. She told me of some of their ...
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One of the most important things you can do as a family

One of the most important things you can do as a family

I meet with couples and families in crisis every week. Do you know what one of the most common similarities ...
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What's the point of divorce - you have to learn how to get along anyway

What's the point of divorce – you have to learn how to get along anyway

Psychology Today posted the following thought on children of divorce: Divorce can strengthen kids' ability to sustain successful relationships, but ...
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The best thing you can do for your marriage

The best thing you can do for your marriage

Research is clear, one of the best things you can do for your marriage is (long dramatic pause) have fun ...
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Great news for marriages in Texas

Great news for marriages in Texas

Diane Sollee from Smart Marriages had this to say recently about the work done in Texas for marriages: This is ...
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The Smalley Marriage Constitution

The Smalley Marriage Constitution

Both Norma and I, wishing to form a more loving union, hereby document our best attempt at forming the most ...
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A question about intimacy: How far is too far?

A question about intimacy: How far is too far?

A few months ago, I wrote an entry titled “What is intimacy?” A reader commented and asked me the following ...
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LUV Talk cards back on site

LUV Talk cards back on site

I've finally gotten the LUV Talk cards back on my site. These cards are wonderful helpers if you've learned our ...
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20 percent of couples suffer in a sexless marriage

20 percent of couples suffer in a sexless marriage

I came across this statistic at the Dr. Keith Ablow blog and have not been able to verify it yet, ...
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Resolving conflict in ways you'd never guess

Resolving conflict in ways you'd never guess

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15:1 After twenty-five years of being ...
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Speaking your mind

Speaking your mind

I am a naturally confrontational person. That means that I usually confront issues and people sooner rather than later. I ...
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Am I the only wife who has a need for sex?

Am I the only wife who has a need for sex?

The issue: I also am in the category of women who feel they NEED sex and I have a husband ...
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The most effective way to resolve conflict with your spouse

The most effective way to resolve conflict with your spouse

"He who restrains his words has knowledge, And he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding." Proverbs ...
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What every parent needs to know about the dangers of avoiding conflict.

What every parent needs to know about the dangers of avoiding conflict.

Extensive research indicates that the number one predictor of divorce is habitual avoidance of conflict.  This occurs when one or ...
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Why marriages end in divorce - and what this means to the children

Why marriages end in divorce – and what this means to the children

Why do couples divorce? The typical statement I hear from couples who come to my office is, "I know there's ...
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The relationship evaluation test results

The relationship evaluation test results

This post is in response to a very simple (yet incredibly powerful) relationship evaluation test that is only eight questions ...
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Do your children love and honor each other?  Healthy conflict resolution skills begin at home!

Do your children love and honor each other? Healthy conflict resolution skills begin at home!

Many people believe that it is normal for siblings to have hateful fights and for homes with teenagers to be ...
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Why do your best intentions to love go completely wrong?

Why do your best intentions to love go completely wrong?

You're running late, again, and you stop by the store to pick up some flowers and a card.  Your heart ...
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Do your words harm or heal?

Do your words harm or heal?

Proverbs 12:18 says, "Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." There are many ...
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Do you find yourself with unreliable, emotionally unavailable, or needy people?

Do you find yourself with unreliable, emotionally unavailable, or needy people?

Codependency. Perhaps you've heard of this term, perhaps this term has been used to describe you. But what is codependency? ...
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14 ways to open the door to intimacy with your spouse

14 ways to open the door to intimacy with your spouse

If you’re wondering what it takes to gain intimacy in your marriage, take a look at the list below. It ...
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Discovering the main cause of unhappiness

Discovering the main cause of unhappiness

“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified; that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should ...
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Why Do Good Marriages Go Bad?

Why Do Good Marriages Go Bad?

There once was a man who ate lunch at a restaurant on the Florida Coast. The man had heard of ...
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A free personality test for couples to better understand each other

A free personality test for couples to better understand each other

When Amy and I first started dating we could do no wrong. If I forgot my wallet and she ended ...
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Are you expecting? A danger for engaged couples.

Are you expecting? A danger for engaged couples.

Don't let the title of this article mislead you. We are not talking about pregnancy! This isn’t an article on ...
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I got dumped at the restaurant, and liked it!

I got dumped at the restaurant, and liked it!

Alright, I'll admit it, for at least 32 minutes I did not like it at all! Amy and I had ...
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Is the Grass Greener

Is the Grass Greener

"It is God's will that you should be sanctified; that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should ...
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Dad and Greg's Excellent Communication Adventure

Dad and Greg's Excellent Communication Adventure

One day, while driving in northern California, our family became very tired and irritable. After a family vote we all ...
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Validate Your Teen

Validate Your Teen

At a marriage seminar we lead every month, we asked the adults: "What do you wish your parents had done ...
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Incredible Intimacy

Incredible Intimacy

by Jim Mueller 01/01/02 When you think of intimacy, what comes to mind? A romantic date? Warm conversation? Candlelight dinner? ...
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