How the commands of Christ can transform your relationship


Something happened to me a few years ago that really shocked me. One of my dad’s best friends asked me if I loved Jesus. Really? Of course I do…but then he asked me a question that has forever changed my heart and understanding of what it truly means to love Christ.

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3 Then he said, “I tell you the truth, unless you turn from your sins and become like little children, you will never get into the Kingdom of Heaven. 4 So anyone who becomes as humble as this little child is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven.

—Matt. 18:3-4

But among you it will be different. Those who are the greatest among you should take the lowest rank, and the leader should be like a servant. —Luke 22:26

  1. Be humble
    1. There is a recognition of your own fallenness which drives you to be humble toward your spouse.
    2. Humility sets the right tone for your relationship
    3. How can you be humble?  What does that look like in your relationship?
      1. The amount of times I’ve wanted to lash out toward Amy, but the Holy Spirit helps remind me of my own junk.

Humility – Andrew Murray (

  1. Be a servant
    1. Shockingly this world is not about you.  It’s about how you love God and others.
    2. Make a sacrifice for your spouse
      1. Do instead of demand
    3. There is no greater love than to lay down your life for your spouse
    4. It creates the kind of change worth having.
  2. Scenarios these commands can help…
    1. Your spouse doesn’t want to change or get help, be humble and focus on what you can do to change and let God deal with your spouse.
    2. Sometimes the win/win is laying your life down…when I stayed at home.

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