Marriage is tough, and it’s the toughness that makes marriage so wonderful! We want to propose a question to you, “What in life worth having is easy to achieve?” Think about this for a moment. In virtually every area of our life we know that in order to be great, it will take knowledge, skill, practice, and a lot of hard work. No one in their right mind thinks becoming a CEO, professional athlete, or successful entrepreneur is easy. But when it comes to our relationships, our marriages, the most common thing we hear couples say is, “It should be easier…why is this so hard…it is just too hard…”
Do you remember playing board games with a parent or grandparent? Do you ever remember a game where you knew your grandma let you win? How did the victory feel? If you were old enough, it probably didn’t feel good at all, like something was missing from the victory. The true joy of winning was dampened by the fact you were allowed to win. In essence, you did not earn the victory, it was given to you, which took all the fun away from winning. You didn’t have to work at it, the win was not earned.
Why would marriage be any different? Our original question read, “What in life worth having is easy to achieve?” Our hope for you is that you look at the difficult times ahead as an opportunity and not a tragedy. That your eyes are focused on loving each other through the conflict instead of being buried in the conflict. Because conflict is coming, no matter how wonderful your dating life is, conflict is a doorway to intimacy and is a part of any significant relationship. Conflict is a healthy thing WHEN YOU KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT PROPERLY. This is where things turn bad in a relationship, when people don’t know how to communicate during conflict.
You are taking steps in this study to prepare yourselves on how to resolve conflict and turn the tough times into opportunities to grow more intimate. You need to know how to resolve conflict with your mate, so we are going to teach you positive communication and how to resolve conflict!
We’ve been helping couples for over 18 years, and if we’ve learned anything in all this time, it’s that couples fight. They fight a lot.
There is nothing abnormal or unhealthy about getting in to conflict with your spouse. Conflict is the natural progression of an intimate relationship. Conflict is actually healthy and an important part of a balanced marriage (or breakfast).
Conflict is natural. Conflict is inevitable. Conflict adds depth to your relationship because you are sharing differences of opinions and needs. When you get in to conflict, you are learning about each other and presenting an opportunity to better love each other.
The problem with conflict is most couples don’t have a clue on how to resolve conflict. They just fight and never make up or draw closer together.
We want to shed light on how to find a win/win solution in every argument. You don’t have to be miserable and avoid topics because they are “too sensitive”. This course will give you the structure and the system to find out why you are in conflict and to gain understanding about each other on a level you may not be used to – a close and connected level.
You will learn how to utilize conflict to help your marriage rather than allowing conflict to tear your marriage apart. This course’s journey will take you down 5 roads for healthy communication:
Road 1: Why the drive-through at Chic-fil-A will help you find peace
Road 2: The awesome power of a time-out
Road 3: Learn how to be a great employee for your spouse
Road 4: Learn how to be a great customer for your spouse
Road 5: Finding win/win solutions is as easy as 1-2-3
Get ready to discover how to experience healthy conflict. Your relationship will never be the same after this course. Marriage can be your most precious and connected relationship here on earth, don’t allow conflict to keep you from true happiness with each other. Use conflict as a means to gain better insight of each other’s needs and as an opportunity to grow closer together.